Maid/Matron?

I'm only planning to have one. My bff is unmarried so that would make her a maid of honor. I feel that having 2 or more people with the same title takes away from the "of honor" aspect so why even have it?

I will only be having 2 people stand with me total-a maid of honor and a man of honor. They have both been my closest, ride-or-die, “so close they are family” friends for over 15 years, and I couldn’t imagine anyone else standing with me. Typically, I do not like the idea of having maids/matrons of honor, best men, etc. because I think it puts you in a position of ranking your friendships, and can lead to hurt feelings. That is why I decided to only have 2 people stand with me & give them both the honorary title.

No wedding party at all. We're in a pandemic and many of my friends are married with small children. They feel uncomfortable attending a wedding. Plus my FH's siblings and my siblings all struggle financially and we didn't want to pay for their suits/bridesmaids dresses.

It's way less stress opting out of a wedding party plus there's no way I could choose between my friends.

I didn’t choose a maid or a matron, I chose my sister because she’s the person I was closest to. She happened to not be married.

A maid of honor and a Matron of honor are the same thing, bridesmaids whom you have known longer, or at this time are closer to, than the others. You use the tiled Maid for an unmarried woman and Matron for a married woman. It is an honor, that is all. they are not supervisors of the othet bridesmaids, and they do not have any specific duties, unless they volunteer to help give a shower or other party, or volunteer to help the bride with some task, from writing out invitations to being second opinion on shopping. At minimum, she buys the dress and attends the wedding and reception. Most brides choose 1 or 2 M of honor. Then uses the appropriate title Maid or Matron.

I had a Maid/Matron of Honor (she's married, but we kind of didn't care about the title?), 2 BMs, and a bridesman. DH had a best man, 2 other groomsmen, and 2 groomswomen.

We both chose people we are very close to, and wanted to be with us on the day.

I'm having 2 maid of honors, no matron of honors. Reason being is that neither of them are married. One of my maid of honors is engaged, but you typically only use matron of honor if they're married.

I was supposed to have a Maid of Honor at our wedding, my best friend from childhood, but my husband and I eloped due to Covid and now I don't feel particularly inclined to include my friend in our wedding celebration if we ever have one. My mom was diagnosed with cancer right before our wedding was supposed to be (which is why we eloped) and whenever I express being sad or disappointed with how everything turned out and feeling stressed my mom, etc she just says "I get it" but nothing she has ever experienced is like having to cancel a wedding or wondering if your mom is going to die and then not even being able to see her because of a pandemic. She's always been a bit of a hot mess and now is pregnant (unplanned pregnancy with her on-again off-again boyfriend) and due the week before our postponed wedding was supposed to happen, and she hasn't even expressed any sympathy about missing that day and pretty much just says it doesn't really matter because we already got married, which is really hurtful to me. My husband and I also wanted to start a family and not being able to have the wedding, my mom being sick, and Covid have really been challenging for us, and I feel a lot of pressure because I'll be 35 in a couple of weeks and I'm scared about having a baby during a pandemic and also not having any support, because our moms don't live nearby and are high risk and wouldn't see us or be able to help me at all. I feel really alone and isolated. I also feel like my husband and I have been really responsible and gotten screwed. I love my friend but she's just irresponsible and sometimes pretty self absorbed and that combined with me feeling like my husband and I have done everything right and have been SO responsible and gotten screwed, and it's just too much for me to deal with her. She also really didn't help me with the wedding at all and was supposed to drive my mom to our elopement but bailed the week of, which added a lot of additional stress on to everything for me. So frankly, I'd rather not include her in the wedding at this point and don't even care if she attends at all. I love her and my mom dearly but both require a fair amount of emotional labor from me to manage those relationships and at this point, with everything going on, its just too stressful to try to include them in any large or meaningful way. It feels easier to just rely on my husband - who has always been there for me and supported me and never disappointed me - and other friends who have stepped up to support me.

I have 1 matron of honor. I have picked my dearest best friend that im close to in life now! My Fiancé has 2 best man's because he picked both his brothers. I am having them stand out with different colors from the others.

I'm only having 1 Maid of Honor.

I took a look at the ladies that are in my life and whether or not I think that friendship will last. I also considered how dependable each person was, and whether or not I could count on them through thick and thin. Another factor was whether that person actively tried to stay present in my life. (aka: talked to me more than the annual fb "happy birthday/holidays" post/text)

My MOH is my best friend and I look up to her in so many ways! She's supported me through tough times, and listened to me when I've vented but also given me advice when I needed it. She's also someone I can be myself around and not feel self conscious. I know that I can rely on her to help out with wedding planning if needed, and that if something goes wrong, she's able to step up and handle it without needing to stress me over it.

View Quoted Comment I love this! Such a great way to pick special people to be apart of your bridal party💫

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Thanks! I only have 1 MOH and 3 bridesmaids. I wanted to make sure the ladies I chose were true friends.