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Male bridesmaid/ female groomman

Holley, on January 21, 2020 at 10:20 PM Posted in Planning 2 24

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Hello ladies has anyone had a Male bridesmaid or a female groomsmen Male bridesmaid/ female groomman 4

Hello lovelies I have a question has anyone on here ever had a Male bridesmaid or a female groomsmen. I'm asking cause me and my FH have a set of twins we have been friends with forever it's a boy and a girl but the twist is the Male is more feminine and the girl is a total Tom boy so I was talking with my fiance and asked him if he wanted the girl to be his groomsmen and I wanted the boy to be my bridesmaid cause I knew the girl would have turned it down she hates dresses or anything girly so if anyone has had a similar dynamic for thier wedding can you tell me the pros cons if any and how people reacted to it TIA

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Maggie · on January 21, 2020 at 10:42 PM
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My Fh has two women on his side: his sister and a college friend who’s a female. They chose to both wear dresses but they’re in the same color as the men’s tuxes. And we’re buying them the pin on corsages rather than a boutonnière or a bouquet: it kinda blends the feminine bouquet with the masculine boutonnière. It hasn’t happened yet but people have been super excited about it. We’r calling it the bridal brigade and groom’s guild or just “groom people and bride people”
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Kelly · on January 21, 2020 at 10:43 PM
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We had my sister in laws as groomswomen but it had nothing to do with them being masculine or feminine. They are closer to my husband than me so they wore a dress the same color as the groomsmen’s tux and stood on his side. Wedding parties should be the people you’re closest to regardless of gender or what they typically wear.
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Holley · on January 21, 2020 at 10:44 PM
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Awwwww I love that that's amazing so far we have told 9 people and 3 havent had nice things to say 4 were fine either way and 2( the twins) loved the idea
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Maggie · on January 21, 2020 at 10:47 PM
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It’s really all about how you feel about it and how the twins feel! People who have negative things to say will find something negative to talk about so I let things like that run down my back. Most of our bridal party are LGBT so we gave everyone the option of dress, jumper, or dress. So far everyone went with dresses or the tuxes for the males in the party. We also didn’t want the girls in black dresses (it looked too funeral like to me) so we changed the color scheme to gray for the groom’s side
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Emily · on January 21, 2020 at 10:53 PM
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My cousin is my one of my “bridesman”
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Savvy September 2020
Guadalupe · on January 21, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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My FH is having his best friend (who is a female) as one of his groomsmen! She is going to be wearing a dress the same colors as their tuxes
There is no rule that says it HAS to be this certain way or it is unacceptable, I mean, who is going to tell us we can't do that? At the end of the day it's yall's day and you should do what is set on your heart to!
Hope this helps!
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Holley · on January 21, 2020 at 11:03 PM
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Thanks for the input I appreciate it alot
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Haleigh · on January 21, 2020 at 11:10 PM
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My FH was a bridesman for one of his good friends (and she is going to be our officiant!). He wore the same suit as the groomsmen, but had his tie in a different color to match the bridesmaid dresses. For our wedding, I'm asking my older brother to be part of my bridal party. Like others have said, it's about having the people you love standing beside you!
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Savvy June 2020
Shelby · on January 22, 2020 at 12:43 AM
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I have my brothers as my Bridesmen and my sisters bridesmaids 🤗
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Holley · on January 22, 2020 at 2:12 AM
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Besides the twins everyone else is on thier respective sides that we have let them choose to be on
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Holley · on January 22, 2020 at 2:18 AM
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Very true the more I think ita my wedding and the twins have been by my side since 4th grade it's only fair to have them next to me on the biggest day of my life
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Just Said Yes September 2023
Icey · on January 22, 2020 at 3:31 AM
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My best friend is a male and my fiancé’s best friend is a female so we’re planning on having him be my best man and her being his maid of honor 😂
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Holley · on January 22, 2020 at 4:02 AM
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Aww I love that thank you for the input I appreciate it alot
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Cyndy · on January 22, 2020 at 8:12 AM
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This is way more common than you think. My daughter in law had her brother as her “best man” and I’ve Ben to several weddings that have had girls in the boys side and vice versa. To me it’s all about the people you love being there for you so I say go for it.
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Anna · on January 22, 2020 at 10:36 AM
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I have a bridesman on my side. He is not feminine at all so he will be wearing what the groomsmen are wearing.
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Melle · on January 22, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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I had a bridesman. He wore the same thing the groomsmen wore except his bowtie was pink because my bridesmaids were in pink. The groomsmen had green bowties
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D · on January 22, 2020 at 11:11 AM
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I say go for it! Your wedding should be customized exactly how you want it.
My fiancé and I only have two people we would want in our bridal party. Both happen to be guys. We also have a male officiating. I don’t want to be standing in a sea of tux’s at the alter. So we opted to have our two friends be flower men instead of groomsmen.
Enjoy your big day!
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Savvy September 2020
Kaylee · on January 22, 2020 at 11:40 AM
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Yes! My Maid of Honor is actually a Man of Honor, he is my best friend. And my FH cousin is standing on his side as his groomswoman. Personally I don't like/didn't feel comfortable with all the boys have to be on the groom's side and all the girls on the brides. I think it should be the people who I love and support me should be on my side, and same for him regardless of gender.
Now for what they wear. On my side, everyone is wearing a shade of purple, and on his side, they are all wearing a green tie, and his cousin is wearing a green dress. We did play around with her wearing a suit, but she is more comfortable in a dress.
When it gets down to it - I personally just want everyone to be comfortable, so I give people options on what to wear, but then they can pick it! (I've attached a screenshot of what my wedding party will wear, I did this so I could visualize the colors better)
Wedding party
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Holley · on January 22, 2020 at 12:31 PM
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Awww I love that
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