Mandatory marriage counseling

Honestly OP you asked what everyone thought about counseling. Most people started by giving personal examples that you took to heart. Not everyone is going To agree with you on everything.

OP also questioned me for my username. I'm not sure what her issue is against anonymity on the internet?

Anyway, I'm really delayed in my response from last night. No one called you an idiot when you claim they did. I didn't read the past few pages but you got defensive on the first page so that's what I'm addressing. People told you whether or not they were mandated and you immediately got defensive about your relationship. When you harshly question and say things like you don't need it because you don't have issues, it sort of implies that anyone who goes to counseling has major issues and that you're better than them. Whether or not you meant your comments to sound that way, that's exactly how it was perceived.

@Spaghetti-Considering she's figured out how to lock her profile, I'm wondering how "open and honest" she really is. Most likely, that's not really her in her pic and she's just trollin' a hot topic?

Find it Jessie! Seriously, thanks for the views on such an inspiring topic!! However, I've wasted more than enough time. I see where the "popular" vote have left us. Enjoy the rest of your day and hey in the future don't be afraid to voice your opinions on any threads I post in the future!!!

Catie never asked what people thought......read it again

@April you're supposed to be held to an ethical standard as an LPC which to me, in my personal perception, seems next to impossible for you to uphold in your sessions based on what I am seeing here. Even reality therapy has more appropriate communication abilities than what you are displaying.

If I was a potential client who wanted to seek counseling and I saw how you are responding to people on this thread, I would be terrified about what you might say to me when I come to you with a problem.

I am not appalled that you do not want counseling, (although again, my personal perception, with the right counselor even the smallest raise in self-consciousness can help increase metal health and overall well-being) I am appalled by the way you are reacting to others since you are in a profession founded on communication and tolerance.

I wouldn't mind. I mean-if my relationship is as great as I think it is, there's nothing wrong with a little verification. And if it's not, then how about some help?

We are required to participate in 8 hours of counseling through our Methodist church, and they utilize the Prepare and Enrich program. As a counseling student, I was thrilled because I think it's a great resource. I think it should be required for everyone. FH and I rarely ever fight, and I would say that we are excellent communicators, but we will take any opportunity we can get to improve ourselves and our relationship. Counseling will only help us understand each other better, which will strengthen our relationship.

We were required because a Catholic wedding. We found it useful to bond even if we'd had most of the discussions before.

I don't know anyone who has done pre-marital counseling that regretted it but I know a few (including like the OP who thought they had perfect long term relationships) who wish they had.

@op if you're this resistant and defensive to the idea of premarital counseling, I actually think it's a sign you'd benefit from it. I mean what are you afraid is going to happen if you have "perfect communication" already?

A lot of churches require it. We had to but it was actually nice, we learned a little bit about how we could improve and what we're doing well and it was great. Honestly I would do it again without having it be a requirement.

I gave a warning about the Guidelines and personal attacks are still being made. This thread is now locked.