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The Bride
Master March 2019

Maritial Non-negotiables

The Bride, on June 16, 2019 at 10:12 AM

Posted in Married Life 103

Marriage is all about compromise but to truly be happy in a relationship you have to have some non-negotiables. Mine was that my husband and I share the same religious beliefs. It was important that we could help one another stay strong in our faith. In addition, when thinking into the future I...
Marriage is all about compromise but to truly be happy in a relationship you have to have some non-negotiables. Mine was that my husband and I share the same religious beliefs. It was important that we could help one another stay strong in our faith. In addition, when thinking into the future I didn't want to have the argument about how we would raise out kids and having the same religious beliefs lessened the chances of that. My husband's non-negotiable was mutual respect. He'd been in a few relationships where he felt like he didn't receive the respect that he deserved so going into our relationship and then into marriage he wanted to build a solid foundation on respect.

What are your marital non-negotiables?

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  • Mj
    Devoted June 2019
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    A couple for us was views on when to have children and also to have respect and trust for each other. Thankfully we have mapped out a little timeline to help us grow together and then grow in numbers and that keeps both of us sane in the head. We also respect how each other feels in a particular moment and understand we are both different. Communication is key

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    Master March 2019
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    I'm so grateful that my husband and I are in alignment with those areas.

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    Master March 2019
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    Smiley surprise Why would anyone not be supportive of you going back to school?

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    Master March 2019
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    Preach! I did not want a "momma's boy". My husband respects his mother but I'm his main lady now. I'm glad he knows that and she respects it.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Certainly, there is no one size fits all. However, if you look up divorce data, the number one reason people divorce is over money issues.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Absolutely, it's difficult to even be friends with someone who does not have the same basic morals and political views so a marriage would be nearly impossible.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Those are really unique non-negotiables. My husband and I have discussed potential names but we're open to changes. You're rationale for it is completely understandable. Thanks for sharing!

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    Master March 2019
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    Someone else also mentioned the children's name as a non-negotiable. Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry for your loss.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Yes! Joining your lives together literally and figuratively is non-negotiable.

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    Master March 2019
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    I'm glad you both found one another and share a mutual respect.

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    Master March 2019
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    In the social climate that we are in political affiliation is more important than ever.

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  • Ashley
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    Having the same future goals. Very important for me to be on the same page with kids and homeownership.
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    Master March 2019
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    Would you mind elaborating on why you two are against pornography and strip clubs?

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  • Latonya
    Dedicated November 2019
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    I just didn't want anyone with kids, divorce, and who is financially stable.
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    Master March 2019
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    A lot of people agree that having similar political views is important. Thank you for sharing about your infidelity, I know that is extremely personal. Are you and your husband planning to adopt?

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  • Summervibes
    Dedicated August 2017
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    Honesty, trust, and respect. Also wanting a family.
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Round of applause for you Gabriella! Not only do I want my husband to be willing to change and evolve, I want us to do it together!

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    Master March 2019
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    Would you mind sharing why not having children is one of your non-negotiables?

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    Master March 2019
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    Pre-marital counseling definitely helped my husband and I talk through how we want to raise our children and that is a huge discussion that every couple should have.

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    Master March 2019
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    OMG please share this timeline with us! Help us oh wise one.

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