Marriage worried.

Why would you not be able to get married legally?

View Quoted Comment Certain members of the Supreme Court are talking about overturning gay marriage which would annul gay marriages.

View Quoted Comment Omg. Look at me just projecting my straightness, assuming others are. I apologize for that.


In that case if you are in a state that's a huge worry then your worries are justified and get a small legal ceremony at a court house then throw the celebration! People did it during COVID, I think having your right to be married taken away is an even better reason to get married then have a celebration.
But if your wedding is in the next couple months you should be good!

When is your wedding? I would assume you have sometime before this goes through. I’d definitely say get your marriage license soon and then have your ceremony. At least that way you’ll be legally married before it’s overturned.

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but the court can't just decide to take another look at Obergefell v. Hodges. Another case has to be brought before them, which is what happened with Roe. Therefore, it'll probably be a bit of time before that happens (and hopefully it doesn't happen at all). To get to the Supreme Court, a case has to go through all the lower courts. For instance, Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, which is the case that just overturned Roe v. Wade, was heard by the lower courts in 2018, so 4 years before a decision was handed down by the Supreme Court. One thing you can do if you are worried is to speak with an attorney about getting paperwork like power of attorney, etc filed so that the spousal privileges that are automatically granted are still in place in one form or another. I know several married friends who have begun to discuss those steps in preparation for the worst.

You could get legally married now and have your celebration as planned. It's not uncommon.

I am SO sorry this is worry is even a thing. I don't blame you at all for thinking that marriage equality is at risk. You and your future spouse's peace of mind is important, so if it would ease your minds to get married now (in a state that won't allow a regression of civil rights), then do so with a clear conscience. Your loved ones will understand. Best wishes to you both!

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First, I think we have seen that this court doesn't actually worry about following long-standing traditions and rules. Second, I don't think the notion that "civil rights might be taken away but it will take longer than you think" is as comforting as you seem to believe. These worries are real and they are happening now; we are watching our institutions and legal precedents being dismantled before our eyes. Any actions people take now to protect their civil rights are understandable and reasonable.

I am a woman marrying a man but if I was marrying a woman, I would go out today to a courthouse get the deed done just so it was one less thing to worry about. Get that document in your hand ASAP!

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I am sorry if what I said was interpreted as offensive to you. Trust me, I am incredibly upset by the issues going on in this country. I was just trying to provide some more information regarding options OP has in regards to providing legal protections for themselves and their partner in the event the worst happens. I know these options exist because members of my family are currently in the process of doing these things to protect their unions. I gave the timeline to inform OP that a decision on gay marriage will not be brought down in the next month because thats not how the Supreme Court hears cases. I am not just brushing it off as "oh well, this sucks." I felt that providing more objective information could be helpful in OP's planning. Especially because, if Obergefell is reversed, then it is highly possible that existing marriages will be nullified, given the awful things the court has already shown to be capable of.