Married after 10 years...what changes?

I ask this question a lot because we have been together the same amount of time and are getting married soon. my parents and friends all tell me that the first year or two of marriage (even when you've already been living together) is really exciting if you make it that way. They all say to go on a lot of day trips, vacations when you can, date nights, etc because kids change the dynamic completely. Although my parents say that it was another extremely exciting time of their life and they had never felt closer. I think there are a lot of changes in the dynamic at so many different parts of a marriage and I'm excited for all of it

Me too! I don't see where all that much would change from now to being married but I'm excited about it either way!

I think that's probably where the biggest changes happens too.

Hahahahaha. well i mean what really happens after you get married that would change things except children? some of the old guys at work tell my fh I'll start spending all his money or telling him what to do and he just rolls his eyes. If I haven't done that in 10 years, I don't think I'm going to do it just because we're married.

For us, it was just having the security of knowing that we'd be recognized as partners in a variety of situations, from being the person the hospital looked to if we were unconscious to inheritance. Yes, you can deal with some (not all) of these with proper documents. But if I'm hit by a bus, does NotFroofy really want to go rooting around in the file cabinet for the power of attorney I executed ten years ago?

And on a less formal level, it also applies. If you're an unmarried couple having difficulties in your relationship, the first suggestion you often get is that you break up. If you're a married couple, people are much more likely to suggest counseling or other ways of keeping the marriage together. Since all relationships have rough patches, that community support is important.

Did it change our lives day to day? Not really. Kids change a relationship more than marriage.

Nothing changes at all! My husband and I have been together since we were 16. We are now 25 and have been married for a year, and everything is the same.

Following... because i want to know too! we are approaching 5 years dating soon and live together. looking forward to his insurance for sure, haha.

We've only been married for three days, haha, but we got married on our 9th anniversary and were living together for about a year before the wedding. So far it isn't that different, especially since we aren't going on a honeymoon until December. We do like calling each other husband and wife any chance we get 😂Honestly for me the bigger adjustment is really going to be my new last name!