Hi I am in desperate need of help from fellow past, present, and future brides. This post poses a few questions and it will be very long, so here we go...
My FH and I got engaged in June of this year. We decided we wanted to get married December of next year when I was set to graduate. My graduation date was going to be the 14th and I was going to get married on the 27th. Everything changed, however, when I changed my graduation date to the following May. Now, this may not pose as a problem to most, but it is a huge problem for me. You see, if I had it my way, I would get married next December while I'm still in college and call it a day. HOWEVER, my FH's parents are VERY against us getting married before we graduate. (He graduates this upcoming May) I know I should be patient and wait until the following May when I will graduate, but I don't want to! We've been living together for almost 3 years and I'm tired of hiding around and pretending I'm not living there to my classmates and most of his family. (I'm a Christian and I'm really trying to not be a hypocrite) I was okay with waiting at least until December of next year, but now I may go insane! Along with the whole Christian thing, my FH broke the news to his mother awhile ago that we have been intimate and that we have been living together. He explained to his mother that that was the reason he would like to get married sooner than later. I was not present when the conversation happened, so I'm not even sure what the dynamic is. Do I still pretend I don't live there and that I leave every night to go back to my apartment?
The other option is to get married at the courthouse and have a wedding after I graduate, but then we have the whole issue of the fact that it would be rude to still call it a traditional wedding and I wouldn't have a bridal shower. We wouldn't be able to have bachelorette and bachelor parties. I wouldn't get to experience the traditions the way I imagined them to be. I guess because our relationship wasn't traditional, we don't get to have that?
Another random issue I have is my FH is very big on not spending a great deal on a wedding anytime soon and he'd rather not have it sooner than it needs to be. He would feel better if he had time to develop some proper finances before having a wedding. So we compromised and decided to have a wedding next December. Throwing together a wedding before then is probably out of the question.
Last but not least, the biggest reason I must be careful to not upset his parents, they have agreed to give us 3,000 for the wedding. Maybe I could turn them around?
I wasn't sure where this post should go, so I put it under community conversations to be safe. My next best bet was the advice tab. I'm a newbie! Hello all! I'm trying to remain very anon because I have lots of college colleagues that swarm this site.