Married Brides: Is the myth truth?

View Quoted Comment I wish you the best!! 🥰

View Quoted Comment Absolutely, I agree.

In my personal experience, yes! But only because shortly after we got married my husband left for a deployment. That was the so incredibly difficult! Otherwise I'd say I think there's that notional the first year is the hardest because you're adjusting to things with a spouse.

View Quoted Comment Hi Latonya, can you elaborate on your answer please?

View Quoted Comment I can only imagine that experience! Thank you and your family for your service and dedication.

View Quoted Comment I definitely agree that the engagement experience has been a little difficult to navigate. Like you said, not with us per se but, navigating through family and things.

View Quoted Comment I definitely understand that! Congratulations! I wish you many, many more. 🥰

My husband and I are going to be married for 7 months .we communicate a lot just like before our communication barrier is wonderful and I feel like if your communication with your husband is great your relationship should be great hopefully it stays like this we love each other even more and I even feel that I am more happier than when I was engaged .love married life .good luck to all the ladies that are married best wishes to you all ,and to the ones that are going to get married good luck.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! Same!
congrats

I feel like the saying was in regards to a ilder-fashion lifestyle. You dated but you had to learn to live together once you were married. Managing family, money, a home. But now a day most people live together prior to marriage and that experience tends to be harder - plus wedding planning together can be a test with managing families too. It all comes down to the couple and their experience.

I imagine this is different for every couple. We've been married for 3 months (I know, FOREVER) and it doesn't feel any different. But prior to being married, we had lived together for 3 years and owned a home together for 1. So things like combined finances, paying bills together, living together, combining family for holidays, etc. were already normal so we didn't bring on any additional stress.

I think it depends on your situation before you are married. It is hard to live with someone. My fiancé and I have been together 2 1/2 years and moved in together about a year ago. The first 6 months of living together were the hardest for sure. All of our friends have lived together before getting married and everyone has said it’s no different being married then it was engaged living together.

I've heard from married friends, that have live together before marriage, that nothing changes. Why? Because you're already living together and have learned each other's habits. Whereas if you're moving in together after marriage, then yeah it's going to be hard. So I'd say the first year LIVING together is the hardest, whether you're married or not

It depends on your relationship. If you never lived together before getting married, then yes it brings struggles, if you dated less than 1 year , then yes it will bring struggles. But if you haven’t been playing games and been dating for marriage and experience living together, then no live goes back to the way it is. If anything it makes it more special to call each other husband and wife. That sayings is a older saying because men and women didn’t use to live together before marriage.

It’s probably due to the couple getting adjusted to each other’s habits, routines, and sleep schedules for the most part. You don’t have those problems if you live with you partner first.

I think this depends more on your personal situation. My husband and I were together for 5 years before we were married. We also lived with each other for a year, but did not live together leading up to our wedding.

The first year of marriage was very hard, I won't bore you with details, but if you want to know there are multiple forums on my page. I strongly encourage counseling (individual and couples) both before and after marriage. Even with counseling, we decided against celebrating an unhappy first year anniversary and treated it like a normal day, even took my mom to lunch. I think it really put things into perspective and made us both want to try harder in our marriage to hopefully celebrate a happy/exciting/good 2nd year anniversary. So far we have done well, still continuing to go to counseling, and working on purchasing a house.

Wish you the best!

My husband and I already lived together before marriage and shared finances so really nothing changed besides our rings, my last name, and legalities. People kept asking us, “how’s married life?” And we were like “it’s the same as before” so nothing has to change!

I've only been married for almost 3 weeks, but it has been amazing! We did live together for 2 years before getting married though.

I think it depends on circumstances. My husband and I have been married for 6 months as of October 27th, and we've had our first argument after marriage (and in general really), a tense or irritable living situation with my MiL for months, and more breakdowns than either of us had in a long time. BUT. We've also had incredible times together, an amazing day trip to Schlitterbahn, and we recently celebrated getting approved for our own apartment! But we both always keep our vows in mind, and at the end of the day? We love and commit to each other, no matter what 💖 but TLDR; personally, I think the first year (so far) is a bit tough, yes.

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This exactly. First year of living together took some adjustment. First year of marriage was fine - we’d been living together for two years at that stage. Having said that, six months into marriage DH started to go downhill health wise and by our first anniversary was just about to go on dialysis, which I wouldn’t wish on anyone - I’m glad we didn’t have to cope with that as well as adjusting to living together because I think it would have posed some big challenges. (He got a kidney transplant six months after starting dialysis and is totally fine now!)