married ladies... any regrets about your wedding day?

Lot's of good info here thanks for sharing

There are only two things I would have changed:

1) Given a detailed list to my photographer of the photos we wanted. Missed a few shots that I really wanted i.e. a photo of just me and my grandmother who was almost 93 years old at our wedding.

2) A detailed seating plan to our decorator. Some of our friends and family ended up at tables that they were not to be at i.e. one table of friends ended up at far left of the hall, when should have been more centre and in front of the bar.

Thank you so much for this post! I'm going to be checking back all day to read all of the comments to come.

Gosh you remined me. I wish that I would have planned ahead to add "nice straps" to my wedding gown. My seamstress put some on for free, but gosh... I was not as pleased with my dress the day of my wedding. The "Girls" just werent secure enough.

I was still nursing and my bewbs were out of control! SEE!!!

@Robin I wish I had a different dress too.

And I so wish I used silk flowers for my DIY bouquets and bouts!!

My advice to brides to be ... Write down everything!! Then give those lists to someone. ex: write down your must have photos. Give the list to the photographer AND to your MOH or family member. They can help keep track of rounding up the people you want in the pics.

If you haven't given your DJ a playlist before the ceremony (ours requested that we DIDN'T!) make sure you write down any must have songs - other than the special dances. There were quite a few songs that we would have like played that were special to either me & Dh or us & our friends, etc. NONE of them were played

AND... This has been said so many times, but SO important! Make sure you and DH get some alone time. Just the 2 of you even for just a few minutes to take it all in and enjoy the moment.

Singin Diva you looked gorgeous in your dress!

I wish I had sat the favors at the dinner tables so that it was more obvious it was per couple, not per person. I would have written something on the glass of the wine bottles so that people using them as our guest book knew what to do. (Apparently, having signs did not help in either of these instances.) I would have gone with my gut instinct and found a different DJ - he had no clue how to run the equipment outside and I was disgusted with how it sounded at the ceremony. (THIS is why it might be a good idea to pay a little extra to have DJ come to rehearsal.) I would have enlisted someone to ensure we were fed! The site coordinator brought us some apps, but we didn't get anything from the pasta bar and I was starving by the time I got home. I wish the BM had run his toast past my DH before he got up there. Didn't really appreciate the "joke" about constipation. Yes, really.

Thank you HisMrs.. but do you see how they look like balloons about to pop!! lol! The boning in my dress kept buckling because the bewbs were sooo heavy. :-( Thats ok... DH and I will have a 10 year and my dress will be perfect!! LOL

I agree about the DJ. We didnt give him a list because I thought that would be to much...and we just told him the genre we like. I kept making requests :-(

Oh and not purchasing a customized hanger!

This is a great post! Now I can have proof to show FH why I want an excellent DJ especially if we aren't serving alcohol!

I found this awesome blog about wedding do overs!

http://avoidingatrophy.blogspot.com/2013/02/if-i-had-it-to-do-all-over-wedding.html

O.k, y'all have convinced me to talk to FH about first look/touch. He wasn't into it the last time, but I think these post will help persuade him. We have already been talking how we are not going to have enough time to party w/everyone.

Also really glad I got a halter and not a strapless. Loving these post!!! Y'all are awesome for sharing!

@Mrs. Williams...you really felt the custom hanger was important?

Amanda what are you doing for your after party??? We cant think of anything to do! our reception ends at 10!

Bump I want to see more..

Samantha, i luv the piece on the "pee before they put the dress on"

One word for our wedding: dysfunctional. First looks were amazing (but did not plan enough time for them) & the ceremony was beautiful! But almost everything in the day went wrong:

The wedding party did not follow the itinerary. The guys became obsessed w/a broken taillight on a vehicle that was not going to move till the next morning. My hair & makeup were done last causing a lot of stress. DOC was gone for an hour to find something she should have sent someone else for. I should have left DOC the wedding book, but after all the months of planning I felt lost w/o it.

We had a backup plan for the rain that started five minutes before the ceremony. But the programs were not handed out when guest moved inside. Plus the escort cards & guest signing in the lobby were not announced. Biggest mistake of all...(cont)

...we trusted our caterer way too much with what we considered the most important part of the reception. We did not do a tasting since they were only providing three sides - their mac-n-cheese sucked. They did not wear the promised attire. Although we stressed the importance of the food being hot they did not heat the food we provided as promised and even THEIR food was cold! They did not set out the sauces properly; even kept one of ours that they failed to open. They did not serve the food in the manner they promised. The list goes on.

From the get go we felt like they were not into the entire thing. We were rushed through the planning; possibly because we were providing 90% of the food. We should have never signed them.

Also I was doubtful of my seamstress. She was super nice, but obviously inexperienced in wedding dresses. Ended up with a bad bustle and poorly altered halter.

Lesson: If you have doubts about any vendor...trust your gut!

I've always dreamt of a garden wedding especially at the start of spring but that long-time dream never happened. Because my now husband was offered a job overseas, we had to bring our wedding date 8 months forward & had to give short notice to friends & families we wanted there. If only I could turn back the time, I'd change almost everything for the wedding: The photographer - he was simply uncreative - acted & took photos "in the mind" of a journalist. The florist - she was sweet but a complete rip-off. I, without a doubt, didn't get what I paid for. The flowers & colors were all wrong, & the centrepieces looked like they were leaves/twigs/branches cut off of different types of trees. Change the whole thing about sharing a limo with the whole clan (in a 20 seater limo). It wasn't romantic at all. I didn't feel it was a moment for me & my husband to share. Change the bridesmaids dresses & the theme. I'd be the happiest bride if only I could change all these. I'm simply devasted.

I am actually glad we didn't have a videographer as that would simply bring back sad memories. Don't get me wrong.. I love my husband.. and I love that I am married to him.. it's simply because things didn't add up on our very special day.