married & living with in-laws

Do you work? Can you look into low income housing? Might not be ideal, but it would work. Honestly, I would use this opportunity to save up as much as possible so you CAN move out.. Maybe even push back the wedding a bit. Is moving out more important than being married at the moment? If you're funding your own wedding, it may be a great idea to do it later, especially if FH is out of a job right now..

I just feel, if it were me, I would want to enter into a marriage while we are financially stable.. (that's not to say "when we are rich", becuase we aren't even close to there, but we have a good savings and are both working, it just makes everything far less stressful and the less stress as newlyweds, the more you can enjoy being married IMO!).

Oh man...that stinks. First, dont be embarrased these things happen.

Can he get another job fairly quickly?

Very sorry about the lost job so close to the wedding that's got to be added stress. I can't relate, but maybe like Jen said you could stay there a little longer and save up. Do you have a job? Is he looking for another? Will he be able to collect unemployment in the meantime?

Oh honey I know just how you feel! I have neen living with the ILs for about 3 years and it was inly supposed to be 6 months to a year. FH lost his job took 6 months to get another worked there for 5 months them they shipped it over seas... just got another job not in his field after 10 months of being unemployed. It sucks but we cant survive off of what we make yet. Once I get my credits cards paid off (pay about 700 a month on right now) we will be able to move out but prob not until after we are married. In my bills alone I pay out 1800 a month and only take in 2200. The other 400$ is for food and gas for the month. We are strapped and have no choice but to live here. Luckily they are gone most of the time so we have the house to ourselves. Sucks when they are here tho.

How many are living with ILs I wonder....

Honestly, if I could live with my mom, I would! Save so much $$ and she lives in the middle of nowhere in Maine...no stress! She keeps trying to get us up there but there are no jobs around, unless I want to be barefoot and pregnant taking care of chickens, ducks and dogs.

But, I totally agree with Jen P., if you can push the wedding and save $, it would probably be better. I think its really important for a married couple to start out on their own...not just for the independence but for intimacy!

When DH proposed to me we were living at his parents. I made it known I did not want to love there once we were married (love my inlaws to death but it totally killed our sex life!). Last year I bought the house, closing in sept then started planning the wedding. If its not an issue staying at your inlaws I say take advantage of it. Save up money until your FH is working again.