First and foremost, this is a very sensitive topic for us... and I’ve been dreading a conversation with my parents but 5 months is not a lot of time... so I need some advice. Long post alert!
A bit of background: My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years and 6 months. During that time, we moved across the country (so I could go to graduate school), had couple’s counseling after we decided we wanted to get married, adopted a dog together, travelled as a couple on numerous occasions, etc etc etc. We’ve basically have been living the married life for more than 3 years now, and we love it.
Here’s the kicker... her family, our friends, our coworkers, random people on the street absolutely love how we interact as a couple. We often hear “If you two don’t work out, then love isn’t real and I have no hope.” We’ve been told that our love is infectious... contagious... makes people feel good when they’re around us. But this is NOT the case with my family.
I came out as a lesbian almost 8 years ago, and my family was NOT for it... not in the least. I left my parents’ home at 19 and lived with extended family (aunt and uncle) for several years. They slowly started accepting me... my parents ignored the entire conversation. It wasn’t until this past Christmas (when I visited my parents) that I put my foot down and told them, “You either get all of me or none of me... and that means I’m including my girlfriend in all of this from now on.” They said they would make an effort and it sounded legitimate but in my heart of hearts... I’m not trying to get my hopes up. I’ve gotten my hopes up before, and it’s caused so much mental instability.
So here we are in 2021, we’re eloping beachside on our 5 year anniversary and my parents don’t know. My extended family does but they don’t get what we have. (But who honestly does if you’re not in the relationship... and haven’t tried to understand and see the relationship playing out over the years). So how do I go about this... over the phone...?
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