Matron of Honor missing Bachelorette party

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree 👏👏👏👏

View Quoted Comment Ok. Chill. It's a bachelorette party. No one cured cancer. OP asked for opinions. Don't jump down my neck because I wouldn't handle things exactly like you would.


I'll never understand how some women think that because they are getting married, the world now revolves around them. Yes we can agree to disagree because I actually give a crap about how others feel. Also I know that getting married isn't curing cancer so the fact that someone isn't going to attend an OPTIONAL event isn't the end of the world in my opinion.

View Quoted Comment If she is planning with you for a party with 5 guests, two of whom dropped out, for her to decide not much party left, and plan something else she wanted like going to a shower, I guess I do not see it as a big deal because she is showing up at your destination wedding. Could you try to get together in the next 3 months, and not the wedding week? Perhaps do something that does not involve traveling or being with many people in passing ? When she already is doing your wedding, I would be surprised if she did not put a friend's shower before your second event in a few days. Is she attending anywelcome dinner or rehearsal?

View Quoted Comment Sorry, I didn't realize she had already known the date before she committed to another event. In that case, yes I'd tell her that you feel let down but ultimately she's an adult and she may still decide to go to the baby shower. Hopefully she is able to swing both.

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Sooooo we give a crap about other's feelings, but the bride and sister... not really?

People probably think women think the world revolves around them when they get married because of situations and opinions like this - you have to literally fight for people to see the importance in things you do to celebrate the HUGE event of marriage that you're stepping into.

*I won't really comment on the cancer part, because I genuinely have no idea what you tried to do with that*

View Quoted Comment Ok ya I'm done here. You're right. Have a blessed day.

View Quoted Comment It’s just disappointing. We were supposed to have a welcome thing and canceled it because it’s the same sister’s husbands birthday so we are doing a family birthday dinner. I’m not one to think everyone’s lives revolve around my wedding, I actually hate the attention and wanted to elope on the beach. My family threw a fit at that idea, so we made it a destination wedding for everyone. I just feel that I have made so many compromises to make it convenient for everyone else and I feel like it has all gotten out of control.

View Quoted Comment The wedding day is “her big day”. Not the bach party.

View Quoted Comment OMG yes!! And everyone has attend all 856 activities planned or they don’t think you’re important enough! Give me a break.

View Quoted Comment It’s 2 activities actually. The Bach party and the wedding.

While I understand the disappointment, I'd be pretty peeved as a bridesmaid if the Bride was a debbie-downer about her bach party that I made arrangements and paid to attend because someone else couldn't attend when us other bridesmaids are there doing everything for the bride. I have been in this position before and it is a really crappy feeling as a less-than bridesmaid who shows up and is down for all that the bride wants to do but the person the Bride really wants there isn't, so you're just there on your dime trying to make up for that one person.

I'd be hurt if I were one of the 2 people who made it to your bach party and you considered the party "lame" because your sister wasn't there. I'd feel not good enough


You're entitled to feel hurt. I'd probably feel the same way. But your sister wants to go to another party, so let her go enjoy yourself. You enjoy your bach party with the 2 people who are making it, and be extra grateful to them rather than considering their company inadequate

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with you. It’s shocking to see so many people make her feel like she is being selfish or expecting too much or should just get over it. Not only is it her maid of honor, it’s her sister and regardless of what anyone says, the bachelorette party is a big deal to most brides. It already would hurt to have two of the bridesmaids not show up but then having your sister/MOH miss a day you’ve planned for awhile? I would be so upset.

View Quoted Comment I commented agreeing with another poster earlier but then I read this and I’m even more irritated for you. She barely knows this friend but the baby shower is more important? I would be SO upset and not afraid to let my sister know it. So many people are telling you it’s not a big deal and to get over it.. but it is a big deal. We get one of these our entire lives and when we plan something and get excited about it and start looking forward to it, it’s so hurtful when the people closest to you don’t care enough to be there. Who cares if all you were doing for your bach party was eating carrots and watching old re-runs of Jersey Shore? She’s your sister AND maid of honor and she agreed to be there. It’s not even you being selfish, it’s the principle.

View Quoted Comment I cannot agree with you more on everything you’re saying. I feel like most people could care less about weddings and fail to understand that, we brides put so much time and heart into planning this HUGE event in our lives and we invite people because we care about them and want to celebrate with them. Even the events before, but somehow that big life event gets trumped by a baby shower? I would be angry and hurt

View Quoted Comment By that same principle, a baby shower isn’t a big deal either though. A wedding and the events planned concurrently are so important to the bride. Saying that women act like the world revolves around them over a wedding? You’re negating how important a moment this is in most women’s lives and I just don’t get that. A wedding or Bach party isn’t a big deal, then neither is a baby shower of someone who isn’t even your sister

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with you

View Quoted Comment Also agree with you on this

View Quoted Comment The fact that she barely knows this friend is very upsetting. And definitely makes it seem like she doesn't care about your wedding at all. Like whats her problem with you.


All the people commenting saying a Bachelorette party isn't a big deal well sorry but a baby shower isn't a big deal either after all a shower is only about giving gifts, the sister could easily send the friend whom she isn't even close with a gift in the mail and be done with it. And that's great for you to not care about your Bachelorette party or anything leading up to the wedding, but for some of us it's a big deal and very hurtful when the people closest to you agree to be there and even help plan and then ditch you. She should not just ignore it and should confront her sister about it and if that makes her sister feel guilty good she deserves to feel guilty for choosing someone she isn't close with over her sister.

I hope your MoH comes to her senses. She's being completely rude. She made a commitment to go to your bachelorette, and she's literally the MoH, and your sister! How is she in the right here?