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Just Said Yes May 2020

May 2020 rescheduled for may 2021, now rescheduled (in progress) May 2022

Kristen, on October 21, 2020 at 7:48 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 6

Hi Ladies,

If your a corona bride like myself then you can share my frustration, exhaustion and general rollercoaster of emotions! My fiancé and I were originally scheduled to wed May 16, 2020 and had to cancel in March 2 hours before I jumped on a flight for my bachelorette. One of my bridesmaids was sick the entire time and thought she had covid but that's another story! We rescheduled for May 2021 and as soon as the plane touched down the depression/fear/panic set in. I'm a nurse so I had to work through the covid spring and continue to work with limited resources/covid patients. That being said, I don't see how restrictions could possibly be lifted to allow our original wedding of 150 guests to go on as scheduled May of 2021. My wedding planner who has been a complete ANGEL recommended we cancel and reschedule for the following spring when more dates are available at our venue and it may be safer. All of this being said, I don't want to do a mini ceremony with just family bc I'm worried when the real date (hopefully) comes along in 2022 my family will be just "over it" and it won't have that special sentimental moment that every girl dreams of. I want to have the special first look moments with my parents and fiancé and I feel like it won't be the same if we get married just because. I'm the second daughter to get married in my family, I've always been a tom-boy type but my whole life I've looked forward to having this glam gorgeous wedding day and looking beautiful in a stunning dress. I'm also so sick of people who are already married telling me what they would've done if they were in my situation or telling me stuff like- oh just elope, when you have kids you'll feel like such an idiot for thinking your wedding day was important! As much as I don't like being the center of attention, I want to have one day of my life where I am the center of attention and have all eyes on me. I'm an incredibly selfless person and never put myself first so this day was something I was really looking forward to. I don't know what to do at this point. My balloon is just deflated. We officially cancelled AGAIN this afternoon and I just feel so bummed out and exhausted. Any advice or anyone just want to commiserate?

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Latest activity by RaylaSan, on October 22, 2020 at 7:12 PM
  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Katie ·
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    Im sorry I don’t have much advice...but I feel the exact same way (and trying to figure it out too)!! I don’t want to “just elope”...I’ve been looking forward to my wedding day my entire life and truly want a Wedding to remember for the rest of my life. Those that aren’t covid brides just don’t seem to understand Smiley sad I feel you. it’s all so unfortunate for you to have to postpone again to 2022. My wedding is now Oct 2021 (was Sept 2020) and it’s an overseas wedding. I’m really hoping it can still happen next year, I have no idea what I’ll do if we have to postpone again. Are you willing to wait until 2022 to have your wedding? Is it possible that you could switch venues and do Fall 2021? Good luck to you and hang in there!!
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    I’m so sorry & I too have no words of wisdom. I’ve been married before but have never had a wedding or anything that goes with it so I’ve never felt like a bride. Our wedding is 4/3/21 & our guest list is around 80. So far our venue hasn’t hinted as to rescheduling. I know I wouldn’t want to elope & then have the “real” thing next year. Just seems like all the excitement would be gone....
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  • A
    Expert September 2022
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    I certainly don't have any wonderful advice, but I definitely respect your decision to postpone to 2022, and I can commiserate with you.

    Similar situation...We were looking forward to our May 2020 wedding celebration (post-minimony for separate reasons, before minimonies were a thing)...150-ish people invited, VIP guests from overseas (1 European country, 1 Asian country). We rescheduled for June 2021 (thinking we were so cautious to postpone by an entire year), and we're nervous that our wedding still won't be feasible by June (so we may just cancel and eventually do like a 5-year vow renewal or something). I also have family members that are front line fighters against the pandemic, so I just want to say thank you for all the hours, energy, stress, sweat, and probably tears that you put into being a nurse these days. You are fighting the good fight, and you are impacting people in a very meaningful and positive way! I am not in the medical field myself, but I see bits and pieces of the difficulty they've faced this year - holy moly!

    I have gotten similar comments from people who don't remotely understand what it's like to be a bride these days....the "well, a lot of people spend too much money on one single day/weekend that flies by anyway...." or the other comments....from. people. who. had. their. wedding. the. way. they. wanted. it. with. their. family. and. friends. surrounding. them. and. celebrating. with. them. UGH. I sometimes just want to scream and say "i've been looking forward to this wedding for my whole life and especially since i met my SO...i've been picturing it and imagining it, and now it's probably not gonna happen, at least for a few years."

    Just want to say UGH along with you, and I very much resonate with your post, and I sincerely hope you have the best, most glamorous, perfect, fun, love-filled wedding in 2022!!

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I'm so sorry Kristen. This year has been such an emotional roller-coaster, and it's really tough to handle!

    Would a fall or winter 2021 date feel like a compromise at all? I know it's so hard to predict when all the social distancing restrictions will be lifted and public comfort will fully return, but I know that 2022 can also sound really far away! Or just wait for the big thing in 2022!!

    Sending you lots of virtual hugs!! Smiley heart

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  • Susan
    Devoted October 2021
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    Im with you. My first husband died when I was 36 and I was alone for 7 years. I met my fiance and I knew we were meant to be together. We were due to get married on 5/25 this year, postponed to October 11, then my fiance's college told him "no way, the risk to other students is too great". So now we are due to get married 10/10/21.


    At this point, everyone's like "just elope!". All.those people are off my guest list. All these people were riding my butt for years to date and get back out there, but when I finally do, it's like no big deal. I'm a mix of disappointed, angry, and hurt by people's reactions.
    So for myself, I decided to go big or go home. With an extra year to plan and pay for things, I'm having a luxe wedding now, and the naysayers can enjoy the photos.
    I guess that's cruel, but the thing im most over is attitude.
    Hang in there fellow Covid bride. Big hugs
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  • RaylaSan
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    This is one of the reasons why my fiancee and I decided to get our money back with our original venue, and go search for another one with more "lax" guidelines. We didn't want to postpone no matter what, so we decided that it would be for the best to search for a new one, which we did. It absolutely broke my heart in the process, but it was worth it.

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