May 2021 Brides

I am planning a May 23, 2021 wedding for 100 people. Prayerfully, we will be able to have it as scheduled. Both my fiancé and my guest list are severely cut down because he has a ton of close family members, I have family and friends and both of us have a large church network that we belong to. We could very easily have a wedding with 300+ people... but the way Covid is set up... we have settle with 50 each. My fiancé, sisters and nieces are assisting with the planning. I have secured the venue, photographer, have my eye on a dress and interviewing some bakeries and. dj’s. No clue yet about bridesmaids dresses. Lbvs.
Praying that all goes well for each of us.

We have not planned any other date or had to postpone. We started planning just in early August for our May 2021 wedding. We already decided we are having a small small wedding only inviting our parents, siblings and their kids and significant others. Only adds up to less than 40 people. We have most of our vendors booked. We rented a large, beautiful vacation home and that’s where we are having it so hopefully everything will go on as planned. Congratulations everyone 🎉🍾

My experience has been okay so far. Obviously mask wearing with meetings with our vendors. The only difficult thing is our venue holds an event to test their food and we haven’t been able to because of COVID. Hoping we don’t have to push our date back!

A bit anxious. My wedding is May 14th 2021. So far, everything is proceeding as normal.

I’m planning full speed ahead with fingers crossed.... I just want everyone to have the best time and be able to dance! Hoping for the best 🥂

I haven't signed any contracts yet (got engaged June 2020) and was planning for May 2021 for our Catholic church wedding and full reception in Philly. Wondering if it would be safe to anticipate everything will be over by then and sign the contracts (total wedding costs would be around $50k...)? Or would it be wiser to do just a dinner after mass and not plan anything in terms of the reception? We are not interested in waiting until fall to get married just to be able to have the reception.

Hello! Our original date was May 2021, but we changed it to September 2021 just to be safe. I am considered very high-risk, and I don't want the best day of my life to be filled with the extra anxiety of getting sick. My primary care Dr and my nephrologist said they do not think a vaccine will be available for the general public in May. I want our guests to have that option available if that is something they choose to do. We are REALLY hoping to be able to have a mask-free wedding. (Btw, all the vendors were incredibly understanding of the change!)

Hi, my planning so far is going fine. I do have high hopes that things will be a lot better within the next eight months. I am waiting to have invitations printed up as well as getting any table decorations and such until we get closer to our wedding date. We do have our venue and caterer reserved, and our flowers purchased. Now we just wait.

We finally set a wedding date for next year after pushing it back twice and then this happens... can’t I catch a break lol. I am being positive that we will move forward in our phases, right now Delaware is still in phase 2. No dance floor yet at the venue, hopefully things will lighten up next year and we’ll have a dance floor. I’m still moving along with planning and stuff , save the dates are next to order.

Honestly, I’m planning as normal, but I’m making sure all my vendors have a decent pandemic refund policy if the worst happens.

I am not concerned at all. All of my vendors have responded with great news that they will not be cancelling. Our wedding day will still be everything I dreamed of it. Our honeymoon to Paris might be a different story, but I’m still hopeful! 🥰

I’m so nervous I got married in my backyard with 30 people in July on original date didn’t wear my dress so I’m still eager to wear it but I pushed my reception to next July in the hopes that I can have more people that I wasn’t able to have this year. I’m from NY where it’s extremely strict and things are not getting better so restrictions are getting worse. I’m praying by next July it will be a little less restrictions because I cannot take the stress anymore I just want to wear my dress and call it a day but if I can’t have more people attend then 50 then the postponement will have been for nothing because I was hoping I would not have to pick and choose again it’s very stressful and frustrating and I’m at the point where I’m over it but I can’t afford to start all over somewhere else when my venue will not give us a refund. I’m going to reach out around February to see how things are and what the restrictions will be and go from there. Let’s just pray things get better!!

I have hopes that things will be better! But it's so hard to decide when/if/who to send save the dates when we just don't know what things will look like. I already made my decision to only send save the dates to our top 25 people, just in case things don't open up further. But I'm hoping by the time we need to send out invites (Jan/Feb) we'll have a better idea of how many people we can have and maybe send out the invites in different tiers if there is a limit of 100 or something. But either way we will be getting married on 5/1/21! No postponing for us.

I think it’ll be better. Not like it was before, but I’m hoping and praying for restrictions to be lessened, and we can all celebrate together!

View Quoted Comment Kari, I had the same original date as you! May 30, 2020 and we had just sent the invitations out. We even got a few RSVPs back, but once covid hit they completely stopped coming (understandably) and we started to think about backup dates. As soon as we settled on a "just in case" date, but hadn't yet pulled the plug, our venue called to tell us they were closing down so they wouldn't be able to do our wedding on 5/30. At least they and all our vendors were great at working with us on rescheduling and we ended up keeping pretty much everything (I just had to hire a new MUA). Same as you, with everything planned already and invitations sent, I really don't want to cut the guest list or have anything less than what we planned. But I'm not sure about May '21 and I'm starting to get really sad thinking about not being able to dance at our wedding. And I really don't want to postpone a second time. I don't know what we'll do. We didn't elope, though; we're not in a rush to be legally married. For us it was always about having the big celebration with all our loved ones there.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree. My original venue closed (Covid) and then I had to find another venue. My vendors have been accommodating however my concern now is I truly don’t want my guests having to wear a mask. That absolutely is not my vision. I’m in Georgia where things are more “relaxed” however my guests are coming from out of town.😐

I am getting married no matter what that day. I'm hopeful, but apprehensive at the same time. I love my partner and I can't wait. My goal is to be finished with wedding stuff by the end of the year, so that I can relax Jan-March, and get excited again April/May. 5/29/21!

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I was super on the fence about whether to just push back the wedding or elope. We're in our mid-30s, have well established careers, and have lived together for years so we were just ready. For us it was important to be married before trying for a baby, and I really just didn't want to delay any longer (if I got pregnant on our wedding day it would have already been considered a "geriatric pregnancy" because of my age), but I was really disappointed that we put all of this time, energy, and money into building this dream day together that wasn't going to happen.

My mom ended up being diagnosed with cancer just 10 days before our date, so we decided to push on and get married because we didn't know what her prognosis was. She's currently in treatment and it's going well but we still don't what the outcome will be, and I just couldn't bear the thought of losing both of my parents before my wedding (my dad died just a couple months before I graduated from college). Our day wasn't at all what we wanted it to be, but with all the craziness that this year has thrown our way it does feel really good that we managed to pull off getting married in spite of everything. I now feel far less stressed about when the big event happens, and my mom can focus on getting better and not worry about putting my wedding before her health. I'm really glad she was able to be there, and I hope she can be there whenever we get to have our bigger event, but I just don't know.

I still would really love to be able to have the wedding we wanted. I've never really celebrated much (I didn't have birthday parties, graduation parties, or any of those things growing up) and was just really excited about getting all the people I love together in one place to celebrate. For us changing the date again wouldn't be awful, because we did manage to get married, but I imagine you can only postpone so many times before people just don't feel as excited about it anymore. And getting your own hopes up just to get shut down is exhausting. I also don't think our vendors would just let us keep pushing the date back and honoring our deposits and initial pricing structure indefinitely, especially if other weddings are happening.

I'm really hopeful that we can do it in June 2021, but wouldn't be surprised if things are not pre-Covid normal until later in the year or not until 2022 or 2023.

I'm thinking it will be about the same as this year but all we can do is keep moving forward! Im looking for ideas the date of my wedding is on mother's day and I'm waiting to do something special for my mom and my soon to be mother in law because we are very close as well. Any ideas how I could incorporate that into my wedding day?

View Quoted Comment I completely understand why eloping was the right choice for you. Sorry about your mom ☹️ that must be so hard. But it's good she was able to be there when you got officially married! And hopefully she'll be there for you again on the bigger day.
I want to be married before trying for a baby too, but I still feel like I won't be ready for that for a few years anyway. I'm 27 and hopefully making career moves soon, while my fiancé was laid off at the beginning of the pandemic and hasn't found a new job yet. Luckily he's been on my health insurance for a few years already as my "domestic partner" so we don't have to worry about that. My friend just got married in a small ceremony for that reason; he really needed to get on her health insurance so their big wedding originally scheduled in December 2020 was pushed to December 2021 and they got legally married last weekend. But for us, there's no rush. Also a cool thing I was looking forward to is having my dad marry us because he's actually a Justice of the Peace. So we could technically just have him do it any time, but that takes away from the exciting aspect of him marrying us in front of all the guests.
Postponing again would definitely decrease the excitement, not only for guests but for us too. I agree, it's exhausting. I'm having a hard enough time psyching myself up to get back to planning. I mean, we had most of the big stuff planned pre-covid, but still had to figure out the details like decorations, centerpieces and favors. I just can't even think of that stuff right now. It feels so superficial and unimportant, and I can't even visualize our wedding day anymore. Not knowing how many people can be there, are they wearing masks, and will they be allowed to dance? Those are the important things to us, so I couldn't care less what the tables look like right now. But I guess I'll need to find some motivation soon or it will be a very bland wedding in May. 😂