May 30th, 2020-is it too soon to postpone?

I would call vendors and venue just to see what your options are if you did need to postpone or cancel

I would call all vendors first, in the same situation.

My wedding is May 9 the last day of the 10 weeks 😒 I’m being hopeful I will not have to postpone but my Fiancé and I have talked about it just in case. We plan on going to the court house and getting married that day regardless, and then have our wedding later this year with our family’s when we can reschedule. Our venue has said they will let us know in April their plans for May weddings but are urging everyone to reschedule or have a small (less than 20) wedding now and have their large wedding a different day for no charge to postpone. When planning my wedding this was never a thing i thought I’d have to worry about.

View Quoted Comment My fiance and I have talked about it too. He still wants to get married on time by going to the courthouse, but WI isn't allowing get togethers of more than 10 people. I want our parents and siblings to be there at least. Our venue let's us change the date to whatever we want as long as it is available, but every Saturday but 1 is taken through small business Saturday in November. We dont want to wait that long. 😔 the situation just sucks😔😔😔

View Quoted Comment I’m in GA and it’s the same here no more than 10 but we are getting married in SC and they are less than 50 for now. And our venue is the same all the good dates until December are taken and my dress and colors will not work with a cold winter outdoor wedding lol and if we do have to postpone and get married at the court house beforehand, I think we will do like a little family thing at our house that day to celebrate before we have our actual wedding with just close family. I’m hoping it doesn’t come that that though.

My wedding was May 30 as well. I was too stressed since my family lives in the UK and my fiancé’s in Argentina. It was best for us to postpone. We were able to change the date to August, but I don’t even know if things will be better by then.

My honest opinion? Be very prepared to postpone. And if you have guests traveling they deserve as much notice as possible. It doesn’t hurt to know your options and be prepared.

Figure out a Plan B. Then call your vendors to let them know the ideas for the back up plan and che their availability.

I would be prepared to postpone. One thing to consider is that a courthouse may not even be an option depending on if they close the offices where you apply for marriage license. I know some states require getting it several months in advance vs. same day.

I'm so sorry, but I think that May 30 is not too early to postpone

I would reach out to your vendors now and try to get a new date in the books. If all of the Saturdays at your venue are taken, maybe you can ask if there are any Sundays available? I'm so sorry you have to go through this

This was our dilemma too, as we are May 30 also. But over this past weekend, a couple of things happened: the shelter-in-place was made statewide here (CA), and then the date was extended to April 18. That's the day my bridal shower was scheduled for, so that had to be immediately cancelled/rescheduled. Then I was made aware of some new travel restrictions some of my guests were facing, mostly from their employers. For example, my sister (MOH) works for a particular County in her state of Idaho. They put out a directive to all employees: if you travel to any of the "hot spots" between now and April 30, (meaning CA, WA, and NY), you will be required to self-quarantine at home for 14 days upon your return to Idaho, before coming back to work. So, they are making people take two weeks off (unpaid) once they get back from CA. My sister can't afford to lose two weeks of pay, and she doesn't have enough sick time on the books to cover that amount of time. One of our GMs is in the same boat with his employer, as is another of my BMs.

Once these things started happening, I knew I wasn't going to be able to have the wedding I wanted, even if my venue was reopened in time to make May 30. So, just yesterday, FH and I made the sad decision to postpone our wedding. We're meeting with our venue (on the phone) coordinator to figure out a new date. We want to put it out far enough so that this pandemic will be over/under control before we reschedule. We don't want to have to do this more than once. So, we're probably going to try for a date next Spring (2021).

The decision to postpone is not an easy one, and each couple has to weigh the pros and cons. I wanted everyone to be able to attend, and I wanted my guests to be comfortable, and not have any of this worry hanging over us. It just made more sense to postpone, so we could have the wedding we want. Good luck with your decision.

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. We have a community hub of all our COVID-19 information, including cancellation guides, monthly planning posts, and advice on how to get additional support. I hope this helps during this difficult time.

We were supposed to get married on May 8th but made the difficult decision to postpone it to July 17th. We just wanted to get ahead of it and let our guests know who already booked their flights and hotel as well as making sure our vendors were available on that date. Also, it was such an emotional rollercoaster going back and forth with the decision...especially when you are hearing different things from so many different people and new outlets. Once we made the decision I felt a lot less stressed. My heart literally breaks for all of us brides! However, when we all do have our weddings it'll be the party of the century since there will be so much more to celebrate! Hang in there! Here is an article if anyone wants to take a look that was written by the company I work for: https://parade.com/1011210/ashleyross/should-i-cancel-or-postpone-my-wedding-coronavirus/

Postponed May 23 to Oct 3. I think if we had reached the peak of people getting sick, I'd probably have kept the date, but since the number keeps growing I didn't want to risk it. Our vendors were super flexible and we were able to move everything to October with absolutely no problem. I just put it in the perspective of if I'd feel comfortable if someone asked me to travel for their wedding during these times. I know a lot can change, but I'd rather be safe than sorry!

I'm in the same boat - 5/30 also. We're supposed to have ~20 guests from Germany, 1 from Taiwan, and probably more than 100 from the US. We've talked with all our vendors, and we are monitoring the situation daily (of course...as everyone probably is, regardless of whether or not they're planning a wedding!). With each day that passes, especially with the international and domestic travel component, we'll most likely have to reschedule We are probably a week or two away from making a definitive decision...and if we decide to postpone, we'll try to get all our vendors on a conference call to discuss availability for a new date - not sure of the etiquette on this!. I wish you all the calmness and peace during such a stressful, nerve-wracking time!

May 30th is our date as well and I am completely freaking out. We have maybe 55 people coming to our wedding. My family from Maine and my fiance's family from Massachusetts, we are supposed to get married at the Woodbound Inn in Rindge, NH and everything has been shut down until May 4th. I am not sure if I should wait until the 4th or if I should pull the trigger now.

I have been waiting 8 years for this.

That was our date too. Even though it falls outside the shelter timeline, we've heard rumors that the date will be extended, at least in California. So we made the sad decision to postpone. It's hard but our vendors have been really great about it.

May 30th was our date also. We made the tough decision this week to postpone. My fiancé wanted to wait a few weeks and re-evaluate, but we live in upstate NY and this state is the hardest hit. Most of the cases are in NYC which is 7 hours from us but still. We have 250 on our guest list and who knows when all the restrictions will be lifted.

We postponed to July and honestly im worried about that date too. If things aren't better by then we may be looking at a whole different plan. This has been so upsetting and frustrating but what matters is I know I will marry the love of my life either way, and I just want my family and friends safe and healthy, as they are now.

Thinking of all the brides going through these tough decisions!

Our date was May 30th, yesterday we made the hard decision to postpone until September 5th.., It was a hard decision but I know we made the right one for our family and friends.

There is literally no one right answer to this. We are also planning a May 30th wedding. I reached out to our venue just to touch base, and doing so made me feel worse because the alternative dates they have for this year are super limited and they've confirmed they won't give us a refund if we cancel. For some people, setting up a Plan B is comforting but hearing about our sub-optimal options just made me more upset. I literally wake up in the middle of the night every other night with some new realization about why changing our date just won't work. It's heartbreaking.

We are hoping to have a little more clarity by mid-April. Our RSVPs are due April 29 and our headcount is due May 9th with no additional payments before that date, so we hope we will be able to make a better informed decision in a month. If it was really important to us to try to have the same wedding experience that we planned on a different date we would likely try to coordinate a back-up date now, so that we have the best chance of lining up all of our vendors, but I already feel like we are being forced to compromise and I don't want to put time, energy, and emotions into making a Plan B only to have to make a Plan C only to have that not work out either.

I am also not confident that the situation will "go back to normal" for a long time, so I feel like pushing back the date to later this year and planning the same extraordinary wedding only for that date to arrive and realize we still can't hug or dance with our guests and celebrate without fear is not something we are willing to do. If we are going to have to compromise and just do a dinner party instead of a full wedding ceremony and reception, we don't feel like its worth the investment to use the same venue, which we picked for the specific reasons of being able to have a scenic hilltop ceremony site, a beautiful photogenic reception area and space for dancing, etc. We put a lot of ourselves into the wedding we planned, and if it can't be what we wanted, we'd rather move past it and move on. I feel like regardless of what changes we make, being a month more into the pandemic situation might give us a better idea of what the next couple years looks like and what my fiance and I are going to make of it in terms of getting married, celebrating, and moving on with our lives.