May 30th, 2020-is it too soon to postpone?

My wedding date was scheduled for May 30th, but our venue called and had to cancel earlier this week. They decided to close their office for 60 days, and reopen just a few days before our wedding. Although I was obviously so so sad, just KNOWING for certain that it was cancelled almost felt better. For a few weeks I felt so uncomfortable not knowing what May 30th would actually look like for me and my fiancé. But now that we know to focus solely on Plan B, we can put all our effort into planning a smaller ceremony on the 30th, held at my grandparent's beautiful home. We have rescheduled our reception for August 8th, 2020 (although, I am still skeptical that 250 people will be allowed to gather in August). All my vendors have been super kind about rescheduling.

I'm going to try to make a list of things that I CAN control and that I am thankful for (I still get to be married, I can still wear my dress, I can still say my vows to my husband, etc)

If you're like me, then just KNOWING what's certain and what you can control can bring a lot of peace.

Thank you to everyone who commented and shared their opinion on the situation. My fiance and I ultimately decided to reschedule our wedding to July 24th. We are sad about we had to come to this decision, but it is truly for the best.

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

If it were me I would wait. My wedding was April 24th and waited until today when they told me I had to postpone it.

I feel like this is me too. I have very little expectation that we will be able to have the wedding we wanted on May 30th, but I feel like it would be easier to have the choice made for us, and at this point we are almost just waiting for our state, the feds, or our venue to shut it down.

Our venue deposit is non-refundable, but I'm hoping that if the venue cancels or the government creates restrictions then maybe they'd have more flexibility in reimbursing us or working with us to coordinate a different event. We don't really want to put off getting married, waiting a whole year isn't an option for us, and we aren't convinced the wedding we planned would be possible in the summer or fall. We also made a decision to go all in on our wedding, with a gorgeous venue, upscale food and drinks, and attention to all the beautiful details, and if we can't have the event we planned, we don't really want to spend the same kind of money if guests won't come (either out of fear or because they can't afford it), people can't hug and dance, etc. Right now I really wish we never planned a fancy wedding at all, and it sucks to feel so disappointed about what was supposed to be one of the happiest day of our lives.

We postponed our May California wedding reception last Monday. As 40% (including groom) are traveling from Europe, we moved it to October 2020. We got married end of February, as we wanted to anticipate on the paperwork. This was (unforeseen) a very positive move for us.
In the end we feel very relieved with the decision & will still have our amazing party, only a little later!

June 27 originally and just pushed to December 12. We live in VA and when the governor announced the "Stay in Place" orders for the state they were established to June 10, 2020. That was when we decided to postpone. The first thing I did was check with my vendors to find a date they all had available and we went forward with the postponement. It was just going to be too close for comfort for us and our guests. We also know many of our guests will be dealing with financial hardship during this time (as well as ourselves) so that also weighed on our shoulders. I have not felt better about a decision.

I completely feel like I'm in the same boat. We've put down so much money for this big extravagant wedding on May 30th. When we began the planning process almost 2 years ago I wanted something small and simple, but our families wanted the typical big fat Indian wedding, I gave in, and that's what we've been planning for. A wedding ceremony of ~250 people followed by a next day reception of ~400 people, and a week full of pre events. I threw myself into planning and created a "vision" of what the big day would be. At this point we're so emotionally and financially invested, I wish we wouldn't have planned it at all. We haven't postponed yet but in my heart I know that's where we're headed. We've been together 8 years and are just ready to be married, so worst case scenario we'll have a small wedding in my parents backyard with just immediate family and then push the reception to a future date. I'm not sure how we'll handle the pre events as those are such a big cultural part of Indian weddings. I can't imagine not getting my henna done surrounded by friends and family, and it sucks that that's where I'm at. Our ceremony venue has said they'd allow a postponement and transfer our money forward but not a cancellation. I may look into contacting a contract lawyer to look over our contract because I feel like if they're not able to provide us with the contracted service, we should not be financially penalized. If anyone needs a sympathy buddy through these tough times, even if it's just to vent, please reach out! This all sucks and I think it's okay for us to be upset, even if people continue to tell us "it's the marriage that counts not the wedding".