May brides and your plan of action?

May 23 and we postponed to May of next year. It was the right call for us, and I feel infinitely better having done it. I've been reading everything I can about this virus and the chances of things being back to normal by May are slim to none. Plus, almost all our guests are coming from out of state/out of the country, and I was so concerned about being able to get all of vendors rescheduled to a date that works for everything (my venue is super booked out in advance). It felt better to be proactive and make a decision rather than risk getting closer to the date, have the venue cancel on us, and then be looking at dates in the fall of 2021.

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My wedding is scheduled for May 30th and I can totally relate to everything you're saying! Just last week my fiancé and I were stuffing all of our invites, it was so exciting, we were going to send them out next week or the week after to give people a month to respond. All of the planning has been so exciting lately and so much fun - and then this. I have no idea what to do, but like you thought of the extra little card with our invites saying something like...although we plan to still go through with our wedding on 5/30, depending on the circumstances it may be postponed. It would be ideal to be able to put another RSVP card in for a postponed date as well, but there's no way that I will have a postponed date all figured out by the time these invites need to be sent. But my fiancé thinks we should still definitely send our invites out in the next 2 weeks. I'm just hoping and praying that we get some good news soon!

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Also a May 30th bride... and we just sent our invites before things really went haywire. Most of our family is coming from place that haven't seen non or few confirmed cases yet so hopeful the measures that are being put in place will help blunt this impact. We're preparing for the wedding to go as planned with a smaller crowd and we are also planning on what we are going to do if we aren't able to have the wedding as planned. Mostly we are in a wait and see mode and just seeing what goes on and what those responses are.

It's so helpful to read all of your stories and comments . I'm a May 23rd bride, engaged for 18 months and in my mid-30s. We're not in a position to postpone one full year, we're also trying for babies, like immediately after the wedding. I'm loosing hope every day that we'll have our May wedding, talking to my vendors about an early August wedding but will that even be enough of a postponement? They just postponed the summer Olympics scheduled for July 24. 90% of my guests are driving, so pushing back travel won't be a huge inconvenience. Feeling sad, stressed, selfish, and hopeless. The social distancing doesn't help, but this community's support is such a useful tool. THANK YOU MAY BRIDES WE'LL GET THROUGH THIS!

I’m giving it to mid April then making the call. Wedding is scheduled for May 24 2020 but today confirmed a backup date with all vendors for Sept 4th. So either way I’m getting married this year! I’m still getting my dress fitted this weekend as planned just in case and going over all plans with the venue .. worst case scenario we just move all the plans to sept 4th.

After convincing myself that this would all be over by our wedding date, which was scheduled for May 12th, I literally got an email from my venue this morning saying that they have to cancel all events within the next eight weeks. Devastated isn't the word.....but we are going to just postpone for September.

I suggest May brides begin planning for a Plan B. This thing is getting much more out of control than I imagined it would.

View Quoted Comment Omg I’m so sorry 😩 our plan b is just to post pone the whole wedding celebration but we know we want to elope! Our local county clerks office isn’t even open so we can’t get a marriage license

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24th here! And yes, day by day!

My wedding is also May 16. As of now we are still planning on keeping our wedding date. I haven't seen a decline with rsvp's but I am sure our guests are waiting to see what will happen as well. My fiancé and I spoke about waiting until April 15th to make our final decision whether we will postpone or keep our date. We will also be reaching out to our vendors at the beginning of April to talk abut what ifs and discuss our contracts. My heart feels for all the March and April brides

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Sounds like the exact boat we are in. We would like to elope and just have the celebration postponed but all of the courts are closed so we can't get our marriage license as well.

Such a complete disaster. I pray everything works out for you!

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This was our first plan B as well - to have our ceremony on our original date and then do a celebration at a later date. But now our county courts have just closed as well and we're hoping that the courts will be open in time to get a license....

View Quoted Comment Oh no! Does your state let you get the license in another county? Ours does. We lucked out and got license today. Tomorrow they issue "stay at home" today was exactly 60 days prior

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately not. We have to get our license in the county in which the wedding will take place. And our license is only good for 30 days. With the coronavirus they are renewing with our charge once. So because we were past 60 days, we wouldn’t have been able to get it before they closed anyways.

View Quoted Comment Some courts are doing Marriage License Virtually now, you might want to call them and ask. I know Cuyahoga County here in Ohio stopped issuing them in person and then last week started doing them virtually. Congratulations and I wish you the best. We just ours Friday, for our May 16th Wedding.

Hi everyone! I'm May 30th and I think we are going to have a private ceremony on May 30th (assuming the clerk's office is open again!) and then reschedule our 150 person reception for September. A lot of guests have started asking, some of our vendors already are asking to re-schedule (except for the venue). Our honeymoon was also already cancelled and my final dress fitting and hair and makeup trial (not to mention bachelorette and wedding shower) so it's just not going to happen the way I planned, even if this all settles down by May 30th. It's such a bummer but hang in there everyone!

View Quoted Comment Same here, our wedding is 5.23. Im really trying to remain positive and see how things turn out. I still have things to take care of like a hair trial, makeup trial and getting my dress altered a bit so im hoping to make a decision mid to early April.

Hello fellow May brides.

I live in California and so far we are adhering to the 8 week ban by CDC of no gatherings of over 50 people and this wedding date falls outside of that restriction...but as of yesterday the mayor of Los Angeles has a plan to keep the county on lockdown for another 2 months which rolls over the May 16th date. My FH and I were supposed to send out our invites about a week ago but we held off knowing the situation.

I want to keep a positive outlook, but the outcome looks grim so far. I wouldn't mind a small, private ceremony but all government centers for marriage license are closed for an unforeseen time.

I really want to hold on to this wedding date as much as possible, but as a nurse, I know things will get worse before it gets better. I also know for the health and protection of others...ideally the best thing to do is to postpone. It's just difficult to wrap my head around this situation of having to round up the vendors and ask them for plan b.

I feel like I cannot talk to anyone about this in my life except my sister (aka MoH). I feel selfish, frustrated, and just sad.

I know a lot of us brides with upcoming weddings are going through this obstacle right now.

How are you all dealing emotionally? Did you take a breather and "mourn" for your plans? Or are you hanging strong to your day?

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry, Marianne. All of your feelings are completely legitimate, and you should feel free to mourn the loss of the date, and the wedding that you’ve been planning. It’s hard. And yeah, in comparison to what others are going through it may not seem like that dire, but it’s still something that you’ve been working towards and what’s happened isn’t fair. It just sucks.


Here’s what I did: I took an afternoon to have a good cry, feel sorry for myself, angrily drew “RIP” on all of the wedding signs I had printed with our original date on it, ate a bunch of greasy fatty carb-filled food because I don’t need to fit into the dress for another year, and all around had a good mope. I also picked out a coronavirus “treat” for myself — nothing like a little retail therapy lol. Then when I sent the official “we’re postponing” email to guests, and got such kind feedback and responses, I felt better— relieved and no longer anxious, and like we had made the right choice as so many of our guests had had concerns about attending anyway. Now I’ve been trying to look on the bright side, designing “change the dates”, and focusing on what changes I want to make, since I’ll have another year to save for the extras I couldn’t justify this year.
Good luck with whatever you decide!

View Quoted Comment Omg I’m so sorry girl 🥺♥️ That must have been a very tough decision to make! I’m trying to stay positive as well even though county clerks office is closed for who knows how long we can’t get a marriage license but trying to stay positive no matter what. It’s probably easier said than done because I know I’ll cry! So far our venue has said we can move forward but we will see once that April 7th date rolls around for any new updates

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I may have to call and ask (or stalk their webpage, lol). It's a good idea. Best of luck to you as well.