May Weddings - are you still holding your wedding day?

View Quoted Comment Honestly, I am going through the same thing. We don't want to wait and in no way are we happy or relieved. We don't want to get married later. We hoped, planned and dream and just like that its gone. When people keep reiterating, its for safety. I get it I'm not stupid. But this doesnt make the loss any less. Painful.

I have been numb for weeks after intense anger subsided. We moved our wedding under duress and now we spend everyday in fear we will need to postpone again. I hate this virus and I hate everything that has happened.

I'm so sorry! Planning a wedding is already stressful enough, and a pandemic on top of it doesn't help. We were originally scheduled for May 9th, but made the tough decision not to have it on our original day too. I keep trying to tell myself that this will give us a good story, someday, but it's too soon so it's still painful.

As one of my friends told me, while I might think it's wrong to be upset about postponing with all of this going on and people suffering more, it is still a big day and a lot has gone into it. So take time to mourn what you had planned. And know that everyone will understand. Plus, on the positive side you'll either get two anniversaries (if you do a smaller wedding then the big one) or you'll get a second chance to work out anything that was bothering you with planning the first time around

Ours was supposed to be the 23rd. We haven’t postponed yet but it’s looking like we might have to. Our backup plan is to get married on the 23rd this year with just our parents present and have the reception on our one year anniversary. The venue is available that day and they have agreed to transfer our payments and honor our original agreement. We thought about doing the reception later this year but by the time everyone gets back into a normal routine it’ll be close to the holidays. Plus we didn’t want to have to keep changing the date over and over again. It sucks but it gives us more time to have an even bigger party than planned once this is all over.

We were also scheduled for 5/30/20 and made the decision today to postpone. We live in NC and with the mandate of no more than 10 people gatherings in place until 4/30 and our public schools closed until 5/15.... I just didn't see things moving forwards the way we had envisioned. Plus I would hate to risk the health of my elderly and immunocompromised loved ones. We have already been engaged for 2 years, so we are going to have a super small ceremony this year. However, I can't let go of the dream wedding we have been planning so we are rescheduling our larger ceremony/reception for next May. Luckily all of our vendors are on board for our new date. Its not ideal but we are making it work!

NOPE! I definitely rescheduled my May wedding. There's no point in wasting money on an expensive wedding and have few people able to show up, no way of having pre-wedding festivities, and risking all of my loved ones exposure to the virus. I've been with my fiance for 10 years now, and was really looking forward to being officially married at last, but not like this.

My wedding was supposed to be July 10th this summer. I officially postponed it until July 10th 2021 as of Friday. The stress of just not knowing what will happen was enough for me. It takes the excitement out of everything. Thankfully all of my vendors were able available the same date next year.

Oh girl, I am right there with you! Our wedding was set for May 23, 2020 but due to this virus, we pushed it back to August 23,2020. I too have felt numb & I even cancelled meetings with my vendors. (We were set to chat via phone & I was like “what’s the point?”.) I am so over it. I feel like I’ve had no emotions and yesterday I decided to change my thinking & become positive and proactive. I spoke to my wedding planner today & we came up with a plan to book the rest of my vendors so I can just relax. I feel a lot better and I know that if I stay positive, things will be even easier. Hang in there girlfriend!

I know how you feel. No access to getting our licenses, and we are grieving our beautiful little day. We are being as practical as we can, but we saved all the money ourselves, and even helped create our venue area. Its been hard to give things up, but we still intend to be married by our wedding day, even if the state of Cali has to catch up later. Sending love your way!

I postponed today.... my wedding was originally dated May 16th and I’m in Pennsylvania but getting married in Ohio..... I’m now aiming for June 20th...... I understand the frustration and emotions....& I don’t feel as though you’re being selfish..... I felt the exact same way.....& the only reason I did postpone because a lot of my family would not be able to attend because of everything that’s going on...& I know I wanted them there.....it’s going to be okay...I know it ❤️

Our wedding is May 10th... waiting til mid April to make our final decision, as things keep changing so rapidly. We got our marriage license before they closed.. so I guess worse case, we just do something tiny in the 10th.
I totally feel your pain. Doesn’t seem real. All the excitement, all the planning... makes me remember how little control we really do have over our lives. Will be praying for all our April and May brides. This is painful.

I am with you and I know your heartbreak so I am so sorry! We were planning ours for May 15th and as of today we have decided to change our date. I am worried the social distancing order will be changed again and I’m also worried all of my out of town guests won’t come for fear of flying. I hope that if this virus allows it you get to keep your date and have the wedding of your dreams!!

We had also decided that if it’s possible we will still go down to the courthouse on our original date and just the 2 of us get married and then have the big wedding later this year.

View Quoted Comment Well everyone as of an hour ago I officially took the plunge and my fiancé and I rescheduled for August 1st. I know it was the right thing to do. It’s just so sad that this is happening to us all. I know it’s only a few months later (HOPEFULLY) but it’ll definitely feel weird when May 30th comes around. You guys have been so awesome and encouraging. I need friends like you all! We will all get through this tough time one way or another. 💗

I totally understand! It’s not something to take lightly but it’s a day you’ve planned for what seems like forever and you have things with that date everyone here on it! That was supposed to be YOUR day! May I ask, is the venue still letting you have your wedding?

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

Our FL destination wedding was scheduled for Friday May 8,2020.
Today we made the emotional decision to cancel/postpone our wedding.
While I understand this is what is needed and out of our control, I’m an emotional mess. I hope we can get our deposits refunded! We are drafting a letter to our guests so they cancel their reservations.Stay strong everyone and lean on each other.

Hi Natalie! You're definitely not the only one stressed about this!! I'm sorry you've had to make this decision, but I'm glad you were able to get a new date scheduled so now you can focus on that.

We've started gathering helpful resources to help you navigate through the process in our COVID-19 Wedding Support Central.

Thinking of you!

Hey girl, I definitely understand how you’re feeling! my day is also May 30, been with my future husband for 11 years (high school sweethearts) and we are so ready to just get married at this point. We may have to postpone ours until late summer or early fall. I wouldn’t mind postponing it only because I do want to enjoy my bridal shower and bachelorette party. Not making a decision just yet going to make the final call the end of April. I don’t want to make a decision prematurely bc our venue suppose to open back back 5/15 but of course that could change. Playing it day by day for now! Wishing you the best keep up posted on what you end up doing.

I’m holding out. My wedding is scheduled for May 22. This would be the second time my wedding was rescheduled, and I’m not planning a third. I was a mess at first, but Im living by the mantra what will be, will be. What really matters is that I’m finally marrying the man I love...and if by chance it does happen, it will be the most excellent post-shelter-in-place party ever!! Good luck to all!!