May Weddings - are you still holding your wedding day?

View Quoted Comment I postponed it until April. I just didn’t want to sacrifice the little things or risk my loved ones health. It was hard but I feel at peace now that the decision is final.

View Quoted Comment I hope you are able to get married and have the time of your life! 💕

You and your fiancé are still healthy and alive, count your blessings ♥️ One day it will be a funny story to tell your grandkids

I honestly feel your pain. I am in the same boat. My wedding was on April 24th and just got the news today we have to postpone.. I feel completely numb and heart broken. Almost like I am grieving. And its okay to feel that way, we have the right to! With all the time, money and stress we put into planning our dream days and for them to be ripped from us, you are allowed to be sad. We can support one another

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry to hear that Breanna. I hope you have a back up planned. I too get like I was grieving my hard work, money, excitement, etc. but we’ll pull through!

Reading thru all of these replies makes me feel like finally someone understands me and what I’m going through... our wedding was scheduled for May 23 originally a year and half ago, these passing December we decided the stressing of planning everything on my own became overwhelming, so we decided to cancel the traditional wedding and elope privately among the beach with us and one of our parents.. for May 20th, after already sending save the dates for May 23, and now we’re throwing a reception to celebrate with all our family for May 22nd,.. keeping things separate helped ease the tension and stress for me... but now, this will be the third time I have to reschedule... at this point, the whole event and party just seems so out of the picture that, I’ve been waiting for this day for so long now I just care about getting married. I’m thinking to wait til mid April, but we’ve decided to cancel the reception completely, the deposit we paid willl go towards catering, and have a small celebration in our backyard, with the cake and flowers, and just imidiate family.. and still eloping to the beach.. at this point there’s so many options, I’m worried my dress won’t fit exactly if I postpone, being I paid for alterations, and he doesn’t even have his suit yet, now I’m finding out we can’t even get a marriage license, I’m anxious because everything is just scattered now, invites have been sent out, I still want to have a photo shoot in my dress, and idk.. not having a concrete conclusion or plan, is stressful, because I can’t even begin planning things because everything is closed, I can’t contact certain vendors and it’s just, I don’t know what to do at this point, cancel... postpone,. Get married at court, go to the beach still, idk... but you aren’t alone.. we all have the same feelings, at the end of the day it makes me smile knowing, during this whole pandemic, at least I have the love of my life next to me everyday, .. everything will be okay, it will be okay 💕

Our venue just called for our May 23 wedding and we need to postpone due to corona virus 😢 anyone have any funny (try to make light of the situation) ideas on announcements for this type of circumstance?

I feel the same, this was our second postponement and I had nearly everything squared away for the day of. I’m still happy to be getting married but much less excited and feeling hurt that we lost the date that had sentimental value. My bachelorette and bridal shower were cancelled, 1 of my 3 bridesmaids lost their jobs and 1 lives out of state so they not be able to reschedule my honeymoon is now before my wedding if we can even go. We will have to cancel if there’s a post-travel quarantine because we are set to get back from honeymoon June 22nd and now the wedding is June 28th

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My wedding is also in June, and I feel the exact same way. Everyday I was so excited to plan the next little thing, I won't even look at our countdown. I also hate when people say those things, or "it's out of your hands." It feels like the unknown is the worse part, do I have another plan or just keep being hopeful and praying that June will be okay? My stomach is always in knots. I also feel guilty because people are dying from this virus, but it's okay for us to feel this way and to be this upset. Other people who have gotten married, or haven't yet don't understand what we are feeling. I hope the never do.

Hey Girl,

Do not feel bad at all, we are all in the same boat! My wedding date is 05/22/2020 in Omaha, NE. Me and my fiance lives in California & decided to have our wedding there because all his family resides there. It was already stressful planning an out of town wedding & with all this going on its even more stressful. Not sure if our wedding is even going to happen on 05/22/2020. Our venue gave us a backup date for June. But we are not happy about it because it falls on a Sunday. However, it's better than waiting until next year. My Bach party was scheduled for this weekend April 3rd - 5th but we had to cancel that because of the shut down. So, i feel your pain.

Be of great courage its gonna be over by then I am getting married too in june 28th and I am still optimistic that it's going to happen

My venue will not make a decision until at least next week on if they will even be open. We had to cancel our Jack and Jill already. I we decided we will have a small ceremony on our May date if we have to reschedule and then have a big wedding again for everyone else. ❤️

My FH and I have had many conversations about this. We are set to marry in Maui, September 20th and we've come up with a contingency plan. Provided we can't get our marriage license by the time the 20th of September rolls around we will still get married by having the ceremony (10 people total) then when we can go get the license and our anniversary will still be 9.20.20.


That is one option.

I feel the exact same. Like I don’t want to even talk about having to postpone. My wedding is scheduled for May 30th too, and like you we picked the date so long ago. Right now my venue is allowing us to keep our date. If this keeps going on I’m considering down sizing the wedding and having just immediate family and close friends.
But I also want the whole experience. I want to have a bridal shower, bachelorette trip, and honeymoon. So I’m not sure what to do. I’m just praying that this will be better by our wedding date. Good luck to you. Hopefully things work out the way they were planned.

Hi there fellow Bride!
Still have faith and focus on the positive things and blessings in your life. I completely understand, as my date is at the end of May. I have had to postpone my bridal shower and my fiancé is asking should we just reschedule. I think we should have faith and hold out for our May 29, date.

I’m still finalizing everything and am praying that all will go well. I pray that we will have our date.

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That is one of the hardest parts, isn't it? "It's fine; all you need to get married is your best friend and an officiant," "you guys are a great couple and that's all that matters," "the rest is just a party."

They're trying to be helpful and comforting, but it's not comforting to feel like your immediate pain and disappointment is being minimized. Go ahead and grieve, girl, I see you and I validate you! It's okay to not be okay sometimes.

I am right there with you! Our wedding was set for May 15th! We have decided to cancel it completely with our venue and just have a small ceremony at our family’s farm. This has been a roller coaster of emotions for me so I completely relate to all of you! My bachelorette was cancelled in March with Nashville shutting down Broadway completely, then with a little bit of hope of having my bridal shower it also got cancelled! I went from being the most excited bride to the most miserable! On a positive note, at the end of the day we will all get to marry the love of our lives and exchange our vows with them. We will get through this Covid Brides! Take a deep breath and focus on what’s in front of you and in your control! Put the true core of your relationship at the top of all this negativity and embrace it with joy! 🥰

Hey girl!
I am also getting married May 30th. My fiancé and I have been dating for 6 years, and have known each other forever... so YES. We are ready to be married, too! We’re just waiting it out. Sending out invitations around mid April, but we’re going to make a Facebook event too, in the case any last minute plans have to be made. This is all so crazy and I never would have imagined all of this to be happening.. but I’ve been praying and trusting God because He knows what is best for us.

Best wishes,
Savannah

Our wedding is on May 29th in Lake Tahoe and we decided to hold off on making a decision until mid-late April. We spoke with our venue this morning and if things get worse, they are pushing everything to the fall so we won't really have an option at that point. The suggested waiting a few more weeks to see how this goes before moving it. Unfortunately it's just a waiting game now

We just postponed our wedding from May 1st of this year to next year. We have also been together for 7 years, and engaged for 2; so at this point if we have to wait another year so that we can have the exact wedding that we have planned, then so be it. We would rather know that we are not asking any of our loved ones to compromise their health. (We have about 90% of our guests coming from many other states including NY & Cali)


I read a helpful article that explains this feeling (which everyone is feeling right now) is grief. So yes mourn the day that you’ve waited so long and planned so hard for, but then take a deep breath and know you are spending the rest of your lives together regardless of the year of the wedding.
Stay grateful through these unprecedented times, and your wedding day will be wonderful and surrounded by love when the time comes. Good luck, as I know it’s very difficult to make such a switch. 🥂