May Weddings - are you still holding your wedding day?

We have the same situation. My bridal shower was supposed to be April 5th but was cancelled since my sisters live out of state and are on a travel ban. I am heartsick that it isn't even happening now. Our wedding date was May 15th and we have been holding out as long as we could before deciding to postpone but fate chose to step in....or should I say illness. I am now quarantined with bronchitis and waiting for the results to see if I have Covid-19. My fiancé and I talked (from a distance) and finally decided to postpone. We are still getting married the 15th since it will be our 5 year anniversary, but it will be in a small civil service. We plan to celebrate with our families and friends after this nightmare blows over. I guess the only thing I can say is keep your head up. It sucks...believe me I know...but you are not alone.

I'm getting married May 5th and I'm almost certain we'll have to postpone, which stinks because of it being our 7 year anniversary and all of our decor has 05.05.2020 on it. So we've decided, were still going to get married on 05.05.2020, regardless if we have to postpone and on the decor were going to do something funny and try to find small caution tape and write COVID-19 on it... would be super funny when we have to explain it to generations to come!

Our wedding is May 23rd 2020. And we are going to have to replan it also. The easy thing is if we still wanna do it my dad is still going to perform it with just a few people in my backyard

View Quoted Comment My wedding was also the 16th moved it to September 19th❤️

View Quoted Comment Renee, you seriously described EXACTLY how I’ve been feeling! Our wedding is June 6th and we’re waiting to make a decision about postponing. It just makes me so sad though how this is supposed to be an exciting time but now I don’t even want to think about the wedding. We’re still trying to hold out hope though but it’s hard!

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My change the date/ invite to go out in July lol

I cannot imagine how devistating this is for you. I'm stressed and my wedding is Nov. 7th.
I would say push it back at least a month. Possibly 2. I have a gf who's wedding was this months and she is pushing it back 2 months. Better safe then sorry. Vendors should be very understanding and accommodating. Good luck hun.

I'm in the same boat! We were planning our big week long Indian wedding for the week of May 27th, wedding ceremony on May 29th and big reception on the 30th. My fiance and I have been together 8 years, and engaged for 3, we've been planning this wedding for close to 2 years. We are waiting till the end of this month to make a final decision but the way things are going I assume we're going to have to make major changes. At this point we are just ready to marry each other, so we'll be getting married on our date regardless of how it happens. We will most likely have a small backyard ceremony with immediate family instead of the 200+ person celebration we were planning for. We will push our reception to later in the year since there's slim chances my fiance's family will be able to make it in from abroad. It's been an absolute heartbreak to slowly cancel event after event. Last weekend was supposed to be my bachelorette weekend in Vegas which we had to cancel. We also had to cancel our honeymoon cruise to Italy/Greece. The uncertainty is super frustrating. It sucks that you could pick a new date for later in the summer and still not know if you'll be able to have your event, especially after 2 years of planning. For us it's near impossible to get a whole week of events with various vendors rescheduled to align again for the same weekend in the future. We've basically accepted that we're going to take some sort of a financial loss at least in part. It sucks, but it is what it is. Take some time to grieve, I'm surely not through that yet, and then regroup. Remember that at the end of the day it's just a day and you marrying your person and best friend and the health and safety of your loved ones is what's most important. It's slim chances but I have my fingers crossed for us that by some miracle by the end of May we'll be okay. Sending love from California

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One of my bridesmaids sent me this today, a photoshoot like this may be in my near future!

Sorry girl. I feel your pain. With my state (VA) issuing a stay at home order until june 10, we made the decision last night to postpone another year. We were supposed to get married in FL on May 16 so we had to consider the what's happening in both states. Now I'm scrambling to find out what dates are available for all my vendors and have to call the airline to change our flights. Such a cluster F.

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Chelsea, I am with you girl. My date was April 25th and we are devastated we have to wait longer to get married. We tired to do our ceremony on our date by we can't pick-up the license We have no choice but to sit and wait.

I can't believe this is happening either! Our wedding was supposed to be May 8th and we had to postpone to July 17th. I thought postponing would give us peace of mind but the uncertainly of everything going on is adding more stress...not knowing if everything will be ok by then and if so, will people feel comfortable traveling or even want to be in a large space together. I, myself, have been waiting for our wedding day for so long and had every single detail planned so this has been a nightmare and so emotionally draining. We also had to cancel or honeymoon and may not even go one one. I also feel guilty because this virus is so much bigger than us. I keep trying to remain hopeful and positive but it's a daily struggle. My bridal shower was supposed to be this weekend and now that has been cancelled and chances are I may not have one. I take comfort in knowing that I'm not alone in my feelings. All we can all do is just hope for the best and that when our wedding day does come it's going to bring people together in the most magical and amazing way. Hang in there my fellow brides!

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I don't know that this would be super funny for generations to come. This is such a horrific time where we have dead bodies being placed into cold vans and are getting emergency alerts asking ANYONE with ANY medical education to please report to local hospitals for immediate help as of this evening.

View Quoted Comment May 23rd I don’t have a back up date. My venue doesn’t have many available dates and frankly I don’t want to change. I’ve waited 4 years for this. I would have picked an earlier date but I didn’t want a winter wedding. I hate the cold.

I’ve been planning our May 23 wedding for a year and a half. We made the choice to postpone. The only date that works for most is end of November. While I’m bummed out, especially because it gets dark so early, we really want to keep our friend and family safe. Our wonderful bakery is doing a top tier so we can have something joyful on what was supposed to be our wedding day. While I’m super emotional and sad, I want everyone else, ourselves included to not be fearful. So we will embrace our new date.

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Personally, I think photo shoots using masks as fashion accessories are really distasteful, especially when healthcare workers are facing shortages of PPE. Unless this becomes a mandate, I would avoid this. There are plenty of other creative ways to announce that you need to change the date without using masks and gloves that frontline workers so desperately need as props. Obviously there are people out there who think this is a good idea (because I've seen plenty of photos like this on social media), but being sent something like this would be enough to make me reconsider attending someone's event.

View Quoted Comment Heh, as you can already tell from some of the posts on here, attempts to poke fun at the situation we’re all in might not go over well with some people. Don’t mean to jump down your throat or anything. I had a “change the date” draft myself that had (stolen from reddit) “love is contagious, but so is coronavirus” that my fiancé convinced me to change. But yeah, I’d be cautious about it. Who knows where this whole thing is going— what if one of your guests knows someone who had died from COVID 19? Anyway, not judging, just advising caution! It may seem funny now if the virus is just a huge inconvenience, but for example, would anyone think a change the date poking fun at 9/11 is humorous?

You’re feelings are so valid. You have every right to be numb. I feel like we all are. My bridal shower was suppose to be April 18 and we had to postpone that because of Trumps new stay at home order’s for Illionois until April 30.
My wedding is June 4 in St. petersberg Florida, it Is a destination beach wedding. Me and my fiancé have been dreaming of this for a year now and we are just two months away.. and I have no idea what to do. Post pone it? I’m so hooked on my date- selfishly I want to keep it because I just want to be married now too, but I can’t do that to people. Everyone has to travel.

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I think it's a know your crowd kind of situation. This wasn't my postponement announcement but one that a friend had come across and passed on to me, it made me laugh. I don't personally find it offensive, but obviously if you think your guest list would, I would also advise against using something like that.

View Quoted Comment Totally! But my point is also that we don’t know what will happen in the future. Someone could send something like this out and then three weeks later one of their guests or guests’ family members could become seriously ill. Having a Save the Date like this on their fridge, which might have been humorous at one point, would likely not be so cute anymore.