Maybe Controversial: Bachelor/Bachelorette Shannanigans

I don't get the stripper thing either, to be honest. I know my fiance doesn't like strip clubs, he finds them awkward and kind of gross, so he doesn't want to go to one for his bachelor party. He wants to gamble, so they're going to Atlantic City. But if they end up going to a strip club, it wouldn't really bother me.

As for me, I want no strippers of any kind. Not sexy. Let's be real, they do not look like Magic Mike. My girl friends and I are probably going wine tasting, then out to dinner and for a few drinks!

I also HATE the "last fling before the ring" crap. I haven't been single in over five years, FH and I still have fun and will have fun after we're married. This isn't my last chance to enjoy myself. Ugh.

SPA DAY for me please! Mani, Pedi, Facial and MASSSSSAAAAAGGGGGEEEE!! Future hubby will probably go to a baseball game. Strip clubs are just so awkward.

My DH went to a strip club for his bachelor party. I had no problem with it. I've been to a bunch with and without DH; I have a lot of male friends. They went go-carting, had dinner, went to a bunch of bars and then to the strip club. My dad was with them and DH's dad was up to the strip club part.

For my party, we went to a Greek restaurant, walked around this party street doing scavenger hunt stuff and then went to a bar for drinking and dancing. I had also said that I didn't want strippers and my BM complied. My DH ended up coming to pick up us girls and drive us home.

This topic comes up so often, it's the same answers that it kind of gets boring. No offense JMedd lol.

Some girls are ok with strippers, some arent.

It's about personal preference, what is acceptable or not in your relationship, trust, but also respect.

That is all.

Why thank you Christine! NJ is a lovely destination spot, lolol! '

The glassblowing studio near me (Glass Roots; it was featured on Secret Millionaire last year) does parties where you can bring a group and some wine and you can all make lampwork glass beads and then jewelry (or cool wine stoppers). I thought this would be a great little party for all my officiants, but it'd make a fab bachelorette party too! (Doesn't hurt that there is very chic industrial bar across the street and a mac and cheese restaurant called.....wait for it....."The Elbow Room" next door!)

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I think Murphy's Law # 20 is, "The people you least desire to see naked are the ones that you encounter in public".....

We’ve been getting a lot of flak for planning a joint party. It has nothing to do with jealousy. But the thing is, our bridal party isn’t stepping up and planning anything. My girls are more than willing to plan a girl’s day for me but that leaves FH out, as I’ve asked my brother and his groomsman if they are going to plan something “uh how do I do that?” So the girls and I took charge and we are planning on having a joint one with the bridal party and everyone’s spouses.

I agree with a lot of the comments above. This isn’t our last night of fun. I plan to have many nights of wine with my girlfriends and FH plans to continue having a beer while watching the game with his buddies. His friends are now asking him “so when you’re married dude, will you still like have a beer and watch the game with us?” FH is like… I’m married not dead, my god. Boys…

My best friend got us a stripper, it was hillarious! probably the funniest thing I have ever seen. First we did a classy dinner, then went to one of the gals houses to drink some more (where the stripper showed up) then we went out dancing. You are right there was nothing sexy about it, but it was super funny, i don't know how male strippers have any confidence, girls just laugh the entire time. If you've never had one I think you should just for fun. And they don't just dance on the bride they give every girl there a dance, making it that much more awlkward/funny.

DH hates going to the strippers so protested and they ended up going to dinner/casino/bar. FYI it was after mine and he played chauffeur for our drunk asses after the bar. His was out of town so I didn't see them till the next day, they were all pretty rough.

I have no prob with DH going 2 the strippers for anyones bachlor party, but if he was the kind of guy who got turned on by that different story.grose

I trust FH but i also know him. He wouldn't WANT a stripper but i always tell him he can have them if he wants... but if he does- i do and he doesn't like that LOL as far as i know, there will be no strippers at EITHER of our parties.

Neither of us are having strippers, FH doesn't enjoy them either but I am very uncomfortable with it and he respects that. It's not about jealousy as it is respect for myself, our relationship, and women in general. I've been to parties with hired female strippers and I hate to upset any brides out there but if your groom is the guest of honor... "Look but don't touch" does not exist. The whole point is to embarrass the groom because guys find that hilarious & lots of touching is involved. I'm not saying he'll touch back or enjoy it but it's what happens most often. So if that would bother you, you should speak up! FH & I went to a burlesque club where it truly was look but don't touch, and had a blast, but the girls stayed on stage! In the end though, it's a decision a couple needs to make!

Fh and I are having our bachelor/ bachelorette party in Vegas.. Lol I am no where near the jealous type.. First day there we are all going to hang out and go out together.. Next day us girls do our thing, the guys do their thing.. Fh goes to strip clubs here and I can care less.. I let him and I go with him sometimes.. I'm sure he will go to one there and I'm cool with it lol.. He knows what he has and he would never do anything to break our trust as I wouldn't either.. Guys are guys, they are going to look at naked woman whether its a strip club, magazines, tv, movies etc..you can't control that.. You can only trust!

Obviously, it's your choice. It's nice to have complete trust in your partner, whether or not you choose to have strippers. While it wouldn't be a big deal to me either way, my FH isn't interested. And...I just want to spend some quality time with my girls...I prefer it be time spend without the company of half-naked strangers. :-) But to each his own!!!

FH went to Vegas for his bachelor party and his groomsmen/friends took him to a strip club. He told me all about it the next day and I just kinda laughed picturing all the guys at a strip club, it didnt bother me at all.

My bachelorette party is coming up in a few weeks and I dont really want strippers or to go to a strip club, but if my girls plan something like that I know my FH would not care. It's just not a big deal to us!

To each their own!

I personally do not like strippers male or female. I do trust FH but i would not trust the strippers. Luckily he despises strippers and thinks they are gross and doesn't see the point of paying some chick to dance around for him when he has a hot piece of ass at home, his exact words not mine lol. Also his BM doesn't do the stripper thing, one GM is gay, and the other wouldn't be allowed to if he wanted to or not.

I do think the strip club thing is ok. But i know for a fact from FH's expreience of hiring a female stripper for a friend's bachelor party that they do some NASTY ish. Like not just stripping but like basically up to sex and stuff. So i would not be comfortable with them doing anything not in a strip club fo the fact of not trusting the stripper.

We'll be doing our separate stuff though. He'll probably go paintballing or white water rafting or something outdoors and crazy. I'll probably go out clubbing.

We haven't really talked about it but I'm open to whatever he wants to do that night, we trust each other completely so if he wants strippers oh well, as for me I really just want to have a pampering day with my girls and a good meal maybe a few drinks.

But I'm planning on having our parties 2 days before the wedding, is that odd or to close to the big day?

@Lena, I personally think that's way too close to the wedding day. Those last few days, I imagine, are already so full of last minute/forgotten tasks, welcoming OOT family, and the like to also fit in b-parties. Plus (and maybe this is just me), it takes me DAYS to fully recover from a really bad hangover/weekend of drinking and eating junk food. There's no way I could go all-out on a Thursday night and fully enjoy myself, knowing that I'll be in a wedding gown Saturday morning.

As far as I'm concerned, our last night as single people was September 11, 2010. So there will be no strippers.

Karen S- I totally am with you! I've had PLENTY of male friends I used to and still hang out with (FH's friends) and it's pretty crazy what they do behind their girls back. I think just about anyone is capable of anything while intoxicated!!! With the right situation presented.

Fireworks bride- are you kidding me? You wouldn't mind if something happened??

I feel strongly about these parties and think it's completely disrespectful (if not totally sinful) if they include strippers/prostitutes. Just me.

DH went camping for a weekend with his friends. I honestly wouldn't have cared if they went to a strip club instead, but that is what he wanted.

For my bachelorette, we went to dinner and then went out for drinks. Pretty tame all around.

I'm sure FH will go to a strip club, and that's fine with me. I know he wouldn't do anything he wouldn't do if I was there. I don't mind strip clubs honestly. Like Jenn said, most of them you can't touch! The only ones around here that have dirty business going on in the back are the trashy ones, and FH wouldn't step foot in one of those, lol.

I personally want to go on a weekend getaway with my ladies. I'm thinking the mountains