Prefacing this with saying I'm 32 and the other parties involved are in their 30s/40s.
We haven't sent out our invitations yet, but we have sent out Save the Dates. Since then I have learned one-who we shall call Ann--of the women who received a Save the Date is not a true friend, and it's over a petty situation that involves a social club we are all in. She tried to pull something and got called out on it by me and some other women. Now Ann has started talking about me behind my back and recruiting a little group within our circle of people who egg her on. I found this out through another friend who has actually stood up for me when she's been around them, so now when she's around they stop talking, which leads me to believe they are still talking about me. I've been the bigger person and not engaging in the drama. People not involved have asked vague questions about the catalyst event that started this, and I give neutral answers or choose to not engage in the conversation because I've discovered words get twisted and just adds fuel to the fire. I have even tried talking to Ann to resolve this, and she avoids me, Even going as far as actually leave the club when I come in. If she gets there after I arrive then she will stay across the room from me or not in the same room at all.
FH has asked if I still want to invite them, and this was in the beginning of the situation. I told him things will work out and it will be fine, so yes, still invite. Well, the universe seems to be proving me wrong in that aspect...things are in fact not getting better and there doesn't seem to be a resolution in the future. A part of me wants to remove them from the guest list, but part of me wants to be cordial and the bigger person and still invite them, then end the friendships after the wedding. Because invites have not been sent, would it be in poor taste to remove them?
