Me My Husband and Our Combined Family

That's perfectly valid. But as you said, the issue was addressed but not resolved.

Do what you can to see if the marriage can be saved. If this last push doesn't work, at least you can leave knowing you've done everything you possibly can to save it.

"I don't want to be married to someone who doesn't want to be married to me " So he thinks you do not like his kids and wants to dissolve the marriage? Or you want to dissolve the marriage because of what is going on?

If he wants to leave, let him go....... Then you will have a peace of mind, and that is priceless.

Yes he thinks I don't like his kids but that isn't true everytime we argue he wants to leave he is tired of it I am to but I vowed til death do us part. He wants to end things not me but since he wants to leave and keeps throwing it in my face makes me want to leave

Right, but that's a whole different issue than just disagreeing about raising kids.

Ok gotcha!

IMO............

It seems that he is in defense mode. Maybe its the way you approach the issue. Nonetheless, he does not see your point and is not willing to compromise, or be more conscious of the way he is treating the children. Obviously this is his out. Let him leave, and you go to counseling with your children. It would be a waist of time to hang on to a man that does not respect your feelings, and those of your kids.

Is he just threatening to leave when you get into a fight about kids?

I would still give it one last try, but when you're both calm, not in the middle of an argument. Ask him if he's willing to give it a shot. If yes, great, try. If not, then that's it.

When I do speak on the way he treats my kids he says for me to handle it then he puts it all on me and he wonders why my sons don't have a better relationship with him they tell me things they won't tell him they are afraid of him

He threatens to leave if we argue about anything

Yeah, that's not cool. So why does he end up staying?

How can you be secure in your marriage if he straddling the fence? One foot in and one foot out...........

Because I always reconcile our arguments

Are you reconciling or are you breaking? Meaning are you throwing your hands up at the real issue because you want him to stay?

I'm not secure and he doesn't get that, we argue he works two jobs so he is rarely home we aren't intimate haven't been for months and I'm not happy and yes we have only been married 5 months

Here's the thing, threatening to leave and then expecting the other person to "reconcile", whatever that actually means, is an emotional blackmail. It's not only unfair, it's extremely damaging, as you can see.

What do YOU honestly and deeply in your heart want to do?

I don't want to loose my husband so I try to work things out but what kind of wife would I be if I didn't try

You are resentful because you are tired of accomodating and making excuses for

1. lack of intimacy

2. not being around as much as you would like

3. treating your children differently

4. threatening to leave

5. not willing to work it out for the good of the relationship/family

Can I ask a question? With all of this going on prior to marriage, did you think marrying him would change the situation?

I want to leave but I have nothing and no where to go

I got married because it was the right thing to do under god and I loved him I hoped things would get better but I'm not happy

Dont take that attitue.... Trust in God and order your steps! It will work out but you have to plan accordingly.

I'll be praying for you to see it through!