Meaningful ways to involve children?

Can you have both of them walk with you down the aisle instead of just your son? You could also do a family unity ceremony with sand or paint.

10 is normally the cutoff age for flower girl. Ask them what they would like to do, if anything. They may prefer to be a guest and support you that way.

I think your kids are the perfect ages to ask them what they would like to do. Depending on their personalities, you may need to give them some options, but it's also OK if they choose to not have a role other than "son", "daughter", or "guest".

My daughters (9 & 13) will be junior bridesmaids. They’ve been with me throughout the whole planning process & they’ve had a lot of fun. It makes them feel important and special (which, of course they are). I’m also including my teenage niece and nephew (niece is my attendant & nephew is an usher).

A few friends have included their children in different ways. One set read vows to each other’s children. Another set had their children pick out their wedding bands and it was a surprise on the big day. My good friend had their children cut the cake that they then exchanged and fed each other. Ask your children how much they want to be involved and for suggestions on what they would like to do.

My older son walked me down the aisle with my dad, my younger son will hold our rings, and we did a sand ceremony with all of us.

I got married a month ago and I have a 12 year old daughter. She had some definite ideas about what she wanted to do and how she wanted to participate in the wedding, as it was hard on her to see me get remarried (her dad died 9 years ago, but she is very attached to his memory and is NOT happy I got married again).

I asked her if she wanted to walk me down the aisle, but she did not. She said she wanted to walk behind me, holding up the veil. I had no interest in having a veil, but since this is what she wanted to do, this is what I let her do.

This is all such great advice. Thank y'all so much!