Meeting with the Catholic Priest!

Ours just asked us to fill out this questionare and just asked some general questions about us and the wedding. We also live together so he was like i am only gunna say this once but the church doesn't agree with living together. But i know ita the 21st century and money issues etc. So thats why i only bring it up now. And he has done that since never said another word about it. It was a pretty short meeting for us.

Normally they make you take a 100-200 question "test." Then they compare your answers. Some questions will be about if you have had sex already and stuff the Catholic Church frowns on.

Then they will speak to you about pre Cana. Some churches do retreats and others do two days of classes.

Also they will ask if either of you have ever been married before.

The first time we met with him he mostly talked about religion and why we wanted to get married. He also went through all of the necessary steps to get married in a Catholic Church. We went to the retreat and met with a married couple to answer tons of questions and discuss our differences. Two weeks ago we met again with him and he basically went through bible verses about marriage and the importance of it. We are meeting again this Wednesday and I'm hoping this time we actually get around to talking about our actual wedding. I was super nervous the first time but he was really nice and didn't ask us any crazy questions.

Every diocese has different requirements. First time we met with the Priest we had to privately answer a questioner. It was maybe 20 questions that basically confirmed that we weren't related, hadn't been married before, and to the best of our ability would raise our kids Catholic. We are an interfaith marriage, so he did discuss that a bit, since we also had a rabbi officiate. He also told us we had to go to pre Cana and what that would consist of.

Our priest just asked us about ourselves the first time (nothing invasive, but my fiance and I also don't live together currently) and took down our basic info, asked if we were baptized, why we wanted to get married in the church, etc..,We're not actually registered parishioners in the church where we're getting married (since we don't live in that area), so we discussed that and what documentation is required. Then my fiance and I had to separately do an online test at home (called the FOCCUS) that is basically a questionnaire about our relationships, goals, values, etc. We're meeting with the priest again next week to go over the results, and will also have to do the formal pre-Cana at some point.

This was our experience:

-are you catholic, is your FH catholic?

-are you baptized? where? who did it?

-Are either you previously married? Who performed it?

-if divorced what's your ex' name, address and phone number? We need to contact them and make sure it's ok you two get married

After that last question FH walked out and now we are no longer getting married in the church lol My uncle whom is a deacon will be marrying us at the venue on the golf course

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We just met with my priest friday. And it really was what previously posts said. I was so nervous also. Our witnesses also have to stop in and answer some questions.

Basic information about both of you, how you met, what religion you both follow and what sacraments you have both made. A big part of the discussion was why it is important to both of you to get married in the church. Our priest also asked us questions privately about our willingness to marry and made sure we were not related or suffering from any type of abuse or being coerced to marry. I was really worried about the meeting too, but it wasn't bad at all! Just answer honestly and you'll be fine.

We did a FOCCUS test then did pre Cana online. Our diocese accepted it. We then met about the ceremony and are waiting now for the rehearsal.

The first meeting was pretty basic. We actually met with the deacon and he took all of the information. He gave us some forms to fill out and information we needed to get (i.e., baptism certificates). He also set up the FOCCUS questionnaire for us. We were also required by our diocese to attend a weekend retreat. The second meeting was buttoning up details and turning in the required paperwork. We also went through the results of the questionnaire. That's all that was required of us. Our next time with the deacon will be the rehearsal.

Ours went very well.

He asked about ourselves. (How we met, Are we Catholic, Ect) He had us take the FOCCUS test and later went over the results. It was kind of like a counseling session to discuss our "disagreements" from the test results. We had 3 sessions with him and won't need to meet with him again until a little closer to the date. Now all we have left to do is our retreats.

We had a class before we could meet with the priest where we did the FOCCUS test. The first meeting was 2 hours. The first hour was discussing the results of the FOCCUS test and the second hour was discussing any concerns we had about wedding prep. We just did our second session where we discussed all the different classes and the retreat we had to take. The last session will be where we discuss mass selections.

We met with him to discuss how things are going. Then he sent us the link on the questionnaire. Then two sessions of compare and contrast. Then pre cana. Now we have to wait until closer to wedding before picking out what we want for ceremony

Our priest spent most of the interview discussing the church's new ac system with FH. He did ask the obligatory "Are you marrying of your own free will" stuff, and jotted down a few notes but all in all it was pretty low key.

Thank you everyone for your input! Greatly appreciated!!!

Our priest told us we had a 3 hour meeting, we were freaking out! He said the first 1.5 hour was getting to know you and the second half was wedding details. Basically he asked us 1-why do you want to get married? 2- why do you want to marry each other? And 3-where do you see yourselves in the years? After talking about that for 1.5 hours (!!! So much time) he gave us one to "reflect" if we still wanted to get married. Then we started figuring out wedding info. Much easier than I thought.

The initial meeting is, as others have said, mostly about filling out paperwork and making sure that you are able to have a valid marriage in the Catholic Church. He'll ask you some very basic questions (name, birth date, if you're baptised (if so, when and where), etc). After that, he'll interview you separately and verify that you haven't been married before, that you don't know of any complications with having children, that you are getting married of your own free will and not being coerced in any way. Lastly, he'll talk about what you need to do for marriage prep (what premarital programs your diocese/parish offers) and ask you to send in a reference - someone who has known you since birth or two people who have known you for at least four years. This person verifies that you haven't been married before and that you are marrying of your own free will. He will also ask you to have the parish where you were baptised send a new copy of your baptism certificate to the parish where you are getting married or the parish that is preparing your paperwork.

You don't have to take the long questioner (it is not a test, you can't really fail) the first meeting. He will just ask you questions about your selves, your families and your faith. Nothing to worry about.