Meltdown Moments?

Yea I had a few. 1 major at home and a couple I just broke down to friends

Not during wedding planning. Sure it was stressful and I overthought a few too many things. Once I approached a moment where I wanted to explode, I learned to put my wedding issues in perspective to my real life problems and to real, tough situations I knew friends and/or family were/are going through and my wedding seemed like such an arbitrary thing to get overwhelmingly upset about.

I got in a gigantic fight with my mom the night before, after our RD, while we were out with some of the out-of-towners for a hello drink. my mom and i truly never fight! i had just gotten my period a week early (not totally unexpected, as it sometimes comes early when i am stressed, but it threw me off!) and she was telling me to try not to drink too much while i was having literally my 2nd drink of the afternoon/evening, and i just lost it. it didn't last long, but it was fierce, and at least helped us clear the air. my BFF took me into the washroom of the pub we were at to calm me down, and i had the most hilarious experience of all these strangers in the washroom trying to comfort me and tell me how great my wedding day was going to be. i apologized to my mom immediately and from there on out everything was totally perfect.

Ugh yes. Happened a few months ago. We set a budget and were totally on schedule for it, but then I had some medical issues, the dog had medical issues, plus we're having to help my mom with travel/accommodations, we're going to have to move into a new place, so new deposits, etc. so now we're over budget and having to save more than planned on top of these other expenses I had a total meltdown. So now I just do my best to not think about it lol

I feel like I'm about to have a second one. First one was just over the overall expense, but now it's over guest list and HMUA mainly. I am so incredibly unorganized and I'm trying to get quotes from people and it's driving me insane, & my parents are taking their sweet time with getting me the family invite list (lots of cousins, and want them to choose a few of their friends to invite). Doesn't help that my FH decides now is a good time to make plans every single night with friends and family when we really need to sit at home and discuss all of this stuff on top of me working two jobs. Bubble baths and wine are my only forms of therapy at the moment, lol.

ETA: FH is now i need of a new car as well, so there goes another $300+/month that was going towards the wedding...ugh!

I had one over my flowers as they came out more purple to me than pink and I was so upset. But everything is okay now. I had another when my MOH didnt come to the dinner I planned when I was asking them all to be bridesmaids. I am sure there are more. but some public some private

I’ve had 4 this week alone, but in my defense things that we have already had planned for awhile now are falling through so there has been a mad dash to replan, book new vendors for certain things and work has been incredibly stressful for FH and I. On top of that, my parents and his parents keep trying to send “just one more invitation” to people they “forgot about” after I asked them for lists for MONTHS.
Mostly I break down to FH, but I did have a minor panic attack at work this week when the caterer sent an email threatening to quit basically because my mom was contacting her without letting me know and was driving her up a wall with suggestions, ideas, and demands. That was fun. I started crying at work reading the email and then again while calling the caterer, and then when calling my mom, and then when calling my FH. It was a rough day.

Not yet, I assume it will come though!

When I first got engaged I asked my sister via text to be my bridesmaid and she said she’d think about it. I asked her in person a few weeks later while dress shopping with her, my mom, and my sister in law. She said no. So I moved on, picked my crew, and then a few months later she texts me and says she’s mad I didn’t make her a bridesmaid. I sent her screen shots from my mom and sister in law saying that I did ask her and she said no. She flipped like all get out and told me she wasn’t going to the wedding and Her daughter wasn’t allowed to be in it. She also told me they would not even be attending and matter of fact, I am not allowed to speak to either of them ever again. She kept it up for about 5mo. Literally blocked me on all social media and everything. It was the same day we (FH) were signing for our first house and I was a wreck. My eyes were swollen from crying while I was signing the papers which should’ve been a happy moment not sad. I’m happy to say she and I have talked and spent time together since then and everything is all good now. Thank goodness! I used to get sick thinking about her not being there. I’m so happy she finally let it go and now we’re okay again because I love her so much! And her daughter too!

Had one last week. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and declined help from both sets of parents. My mom was with me at the venue going over some details when I told the manager we wouldn't have favors. FH and I decided to forgo. My mom informed me then that she was buying favors for me. I flipped on the inside but was able to calmly inform her that I appreciate the thought but we do not want them and that she is overstepping.

I just had one a couple hours ago. I am a high school teacher and lacrosse coach (virtually no free time at all right now). My fiance and I just made it through an 11 day strike and a few showdowns with his mom. I am exactly three months away today, and am beginning to feel like I have a thousand things to do and absolutely no time or energy to accomplish them. Today my students were working on something individually so I took the five free minutes I had before they start bombarding me with questions to glance at my budget chart and notice that today my final payment is due for my venue. I have to money, but was devastated that I had completely forgot. Today is our first game and I had to scramble to figure out how to get to the venue to pay, make it home to change/eat, and get to the game. I just became so overwhelmed with everything and mad at myself because I had forgot about the payment. So there I was facing 25 sixteen year old students having a silent panic attack/meltdown in my head. It is the first of what I am sure is many more tom come. Luckily my kids always make me laugh and were a good distraction!

Meltdowns were always private- no yelling or anger, just sadness. My meltdowns related to my dress.

View Quoted Comment Kind of off-topic- I always remember your dress when I see your username. I would've never thought to do a gold dress. It looked so gorgeous on you and is such a unique dress!

I had a meltdown moment the first day I started planning. It was when I got home after looking at venues. I was having major information overload and a little guilt about spending so much on a wedding. My FH almost pushed back the wedding a whole year because I was so worried.
I made it through by realizing we're financially responsible and this is most likely only going to happen once in my life. We might as well spend what we need and have to make it how we want it so we don't have any regrets later on!

I've had several due to my FIL's treatment of us during the planning process. Most of them were at home with FH out of sadness and frustration, or venting to my mom. I did have one very public one in Disney Springs with FMIL after having lunch with her there. She had hit my last nerve with the "well our family this..." and I finally snapped and laid into her about our wedding is supposed to be about FH and I, and our son. Not about them, or their other children, or their extended families. She seemed to understand some things I was talking about and we ended it with a peaceful conversation and a hug. The issues picked up again after we got home from vacation and I'm still very hurt by their treatment so now I'm just focusing on getting through the weekend of the wedding with them being here to try to not further damage our relationship.

Yes, I've had a few, mainly over disagreements with my mother. It also has been (and will be until the wedding) my busiest time of year at work, so sometimes stress bubbles over.

For just about every detail, my mom is very good at shooting down my idea almost instantly, and saying how her way would be better. But, every now and then, she'll re-introduce my idea to me a few days or a week later, like it was hers. I've learned to just roll with it, and pick my battles. (My parents are paying for the venue.)

FH has been very good at letting me vent to him, and standing up with me when I need him to.

It was on my birthday when I found out the store that was holding my dress that was fully paid was up for sale with all of the dresses and the shop owner wasnt answering my attempts to get a hold of her.
Its fixed now but I cried and cried all alone in my bed.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, your words do help 😊

I’m sure I’ve had them but I guess nothing major because I can’t remember them. Yesterday though when we got an RSVP with an extra name on it my FH could see the panic in my eyes and knew I was going to have a crazy episode. Luckily he opened a “no” response immediately after and was like “it’s ok! Cousin Stephen isn’t coming we can let the extra person come! No awkward phone call to deal with!” (I hate talking on the phone and I hate telling people no or dealing with an awkward thing like “hey you can’t bring an extra person that I didn’t invite” )

I'm ashamed to admit I had a semi-public meltdown towards the beginning of planning. It was pretty uncharacteristic for me.

We had visited a ton of venues (at least 10 in person and quotes from 30+) and had finally found one that worked for us, not our dream but, within our budget and was willing to accommodate our small guest list. We had a meeting scheduled to see it again in person and put down the deposit on the date they were supposed to be holding for us. Well, we get there and the coordinator says she gave the date to someone else and she started changing other things that they had originally agreed to. I was devasted and we left without booking it.

I sobbed the entire car ride home and for like the next hour because I was so defeated by this point. FH and I had planned to have dinner at his parents' place that night so, he suggested postponing but, I insisted I was fine and we should go as it would get my mind off of it. Well, we arrive and they had invited my parents to dinner too (they all get along really well) to celebrate us finally having venue.

I lost it, full on crying, saying I was done with planning, didn't want a wedding, blah blah blah. It was super embarrassing because I am not an emotional person usually and the whole night was just awkward with everyone trying to reassure me it would be fine and everything would work itself out.

Thankfully, about a week later our dream venue contacted us saying they had a cancellation and if we took the date (our preferred date all along) they would give it to us a major discount. This brought our dream venue down to the same price as the one we were going to settle for. Other than a few mini (private) freakouts about the cost of things but, for the most part, everything has gone pretty smoothly since.