Meltdown Moments?

I've had 1 so far. I had to replace a bridesmaid. And change the dresses I wanted them to wear. So far two out of three love the new dress and are already ordering it. The third I haven't heard from again so I'm thinking she either gets the dress and is in the wedding or she doesn't and is just a guest. I have so much more to do that I can't stress over her anymore. I know my wedding isn't going to be as important to people as it is to me but I'm only getting one of these so I guess I'll be a bridezilla and make sure it's the way I want it.

The day before my first wedding I had a rather packed schedule, and when I showed up for my nail appointment they made me sit and wait for almost an hour before they got to me. I was grinding my teeth so hard my cheeks hurt! My mom was with me and said she was really impressed that I didn't blow up because she could see how FURIOUS I was. It was a close thing, really. This time I plan to have a much more relaxed schedule lol.

I only had one meltdown. Thursday before the Saturday wedding. People started texting me telling me they couldn’t come, asking me for th address and the time, people all confused about the RD, trying to get everything in totes, inventoried and written down for DOC. My boss Calling me 500 times to do things. I had a meltdown in the shower and a clear “f*** it” epiphany. Whatever happened, happrned. Whatever didn’t happen, didn’t happen and whoever shows up shows up and that’s ok. I was as cool as a cucumber after that!

I have had a few. All in private, but thankfully I was able to talk to my FH, Maid and Matron of Honor to get my mind back in order. Mostly me stressing about finances and being irritated about silly stuff like other people's ideas trying to override mine.

Yup! Was so happy and excited to get the guest list finalized and save the dates sent out after a lot of talks with FH family members about how we can’t invite every distant relative and every person who has ever invited them to a Seder. All sets of parents were happy with the guest list and everyone prioritized who they wanted there. Get to dinner with FH’s family and his sister tells me how people are so offended that so and so isn’t invited and all these people are boycotting our wedding. And that we have caused a scandal not inviting all 15 second cousins and we needed to invite everyone because not everyone will show up. I was running on very little sleep and had been very stressed trying to find a new place to live and just ran to the bathroom of the restaurant bawling! Come to find out his sisters made that up and no one said such thing. I set a boundary and told FH that I wouldn’t be speaking to his family about wedding stuff for a week, I needed a break!

Yes, several LOL.

1. When my sister/MOH kept bugging me about inviting her friend (my frenemy since HS), inviting her gay bff to my female-only bach trip, and inviting our aunt who trash talks my mom.

2. When my FH's mom added 50 of her friends to our guestlist, about 3 months after we finalized the list.

3. When my sister wanted to wear the same color as me to one of my events.

4. When I realized none of my relatives were coming to my destination reception, because they just don't care and I needed to face reality. Also, that aside from my sister, I don't have any help from any family with the wedding.

5. A bunch with my FH because his family is disorganized, last-minute, and would not stick to our deadlines about anything.

Woooo lol

Right in the beginning when I realized my parents who are well off were not going to help in any way for our wedding. I am my mother's only child, but hey they'll have a fun time in Ireland this year...

I totally flipped when my "wedding dress" arrived from a 3rd party seller on Amazon. It was supposed to be crimson and beautiful... instead it was burnt orange and looked like a thrift store Halloween costume. I cried for two days because I knew there were no longer any dressmakers doing red so it wrecked my entire vision for my attire. It set a sad tone for a while.

Very small in comparison to my fiance's meltdown, but his reason was much more valid! Ex best man decided to try and ruin our relationship. That wasn't a fun thing to process.