Memorial

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss! Those both sound like very sweet ways to honor her.🌹 I would first check with your fiance: will him seeing the photo and rose on her chair make him feel sad during the ceremony? Your wedding should be a day with happiness rather than sadness. Maybe discuss with your fiance on how he would like to honor her at the wedding?

Sorry for your loss Maria. I agree with Lisa. Maybe speak with your fiancé to see the best way to honor his mother. For my sisters wedding, they did the pictures with a message.

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Thank you for your reply. I know...I don't want him upset.

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That's a nice.

View Quoted Comment Are you looking to set something up to honor her as a surprise for him? If so, you could gift him a framed photo of him and her and give it to him before the ceremony, or maybe give him cuff links with her name or initials on them, or you could put a charm in your bouquet with her photo in it.

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The cuff links sound like an excellent ideal...thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

Something to consider is how other close family members would react to a tribute/photo/etc. if you choose to do one. I have heard stories where grieving family members are overwhelmed by their feeling of loss because the couple getting married included photos and it caused them to leave the wedding in tears. Everyone processes grief differently so family dynamics and clear communication are important when making a decision like this.



For me, I was the first grandchild to get married since the passing of my grandmother earlier that year. I honored and remembered her by included items I had inherited (her flower vases as centerpieces, the cake cutting knife from her wedding, and a pearl necklace she frequently wore to special occasions). My aunts and uncles all noticed and said how happy they were to see those things used by the next generation to celebrate, in the same spirit she would have if she were with us. It was too soon for me to include a photo of my grandparents but I still felt like I had her and my grandfather there with me.
The cuff links sound like a nice idea. Including her favorite flowers, favoirite color, or some other small detail could be another good way to honor her.

We are doing a memorial table for ours but I love the picture with the roses in her chair.

I'm so sorry for your FH's loss. I lost my mother five years before I got married. My husband and I wanted to honor both her and his oldest sister, who he lost to uterine cancer ten years before our wedding, before I even had the chance to meet her. We were originally going to do empty chairs with roses, but we decided that would call too much attention to the fact that they weren't there. My dad is seeing someone new now, and his new partner would be sitting with him. Instead we did memorial candles, which were short white pillars in clear vases. We lit them and each said a message to our respective people. It was very tasteful and sentimental.

My friend had a little locket sized photo on her bouquet. Could you attach one to his boutonniere? A memorial table would be very nice, the rose on the seat may draw his attention to there and could either be good or bad.

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Now that sounds nice also...thank you for the ideal.

I would think a other great option would be a tie for him with her picture on the inside. I have seen them on Etsy and think it would be a really sweet but private tribute.

Put her picture and a rose and have a charm or a pin to put on his jacket so he can have her close to his heart. And that will be a beautiful thing to do. I know how he feels my grandmother has passed as well and it still hurts but I will have her with me tho.