Memory Table - Who is included?

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We will be having a memory table as well at our wedding. I think the point is to include the people who you wish could be there but if you think it would mean something to your mom if her mother was included and same thing for your fiancé than I would include those people too. I'm sure if your grandma was alive she would be there so it makes sense to have a picture of her at your memory table.

No rules - do what you want! We are doing my parents and all sets of grandparents.

My grandmother, great grandmother, and my mom have all passed away, but I will only be setting up a table for my mom. I don't mean this as harsh as it sounds, but out of those three she is the only one whose presence will be terribly missed. I wasn't close to the other two.

We will be having a memorial table also, but i am not going to have anyone pictures. I choosed to have a white lantern with a white candle lit up in memory of all of the family members that are not longer with us and we are going to play a song before we lit up the candle

I don't think there are any rules but we are not having one for a lot of this same reason unfortunately.

My FH was very close to his grandmother and some other family that have past and we wanted to do a memory table but FH mother would throw a fit if we didnt include her second husband that died even though FH didnt know him very well and we were not inclined to include him. It just made things difficult so we are just leaving it out.

I don't think there's rules when it comes to this. We are including pictures of people who we know would be there if they were still with us.

Do what you feel is right. No rules.

We are not doing one because we both have family member who died recently we are not close to, we dont want to offend people they were close to

I don't think you "need" to include everyone. I'm doing one only for my father but I've lost my grandmother, and two grandfathers.

I am building a "wall" for behind the guestbook table to include photos. We are including both sets of my grandparents (some I knew when I was very young, but only really remember through stories), my FHs paternal grandparents who passed away he was born ( I feel like if we are including all of my grandparents it also makes sense to include his and I think my FFIL will appreciate this), my grandmothers best friend who passed away a bit before she did ( we used to go to a lot of baseball games together) and my "adopted" aunt and grandma (who are actual grandma and aunt to one of my bridesmaids who was my best friend growing up, her mom basically became my mom, so I was close with her family). I know it's a lot of people to include, but they are special to us. I'm going to hang all the photos on the "wall" with a framed quote that says "Because people we love are in heaven there's a little bit of heaven at our wedding".

Actually the etiquette stands that if you would hurt someone’s feelings by not including the person you should put that person‘s picture on the table 6 inches picture will not make or break any wedding but hurting someone’s feelings by exclusion will I had a bride wants told me she wanted a group photo of her fiancé‘s deceased parents and grandparents even though her fiancé’s parents died recently and it was painful she did not want them to have their own standalone 6 inch pictures many of us were extremely Hurt by that trying to squeeze important people in the group picture to save someOdd sense of space irreparable pain

No rules. To keep in line with etiquette of avoiding hurt feelings, instead of naming specific people, just say something like "Remembering those who are with us in spirit" with a single candle or a cluster.

No rules here. We have a lantern for my parents and general sign for all other loved ones who have passed. FMIL and FH’s aunt also suggested I put out a photo from my parents’ wedding, but I haven’t decided yet. That being said, if FH said he wanted something specific for his one aunt or his grandparents, we would add those without question,

We included my husband’s grandfathers in our memorial display, even though he was very young when they passed away. He doesn’t have many memories of them, but I think his parents really liked the gesture, and they were his grandparents after all. I don’t think there are rules here, but we included all grandparents, as well as aunts and uncles that are no longer with us.