Mens...shower?

I’ve never heard of one just for the groom but if he wants to be involved you can just have a wedding shower for your both.

Coed showers are a thing with grilled burgers rather than tea sandwiches. Guys generally don’t have gift giving parties on their own.

Since the original purpose of a shower was to gift "householdy" items, men did not generally have one (patriarchal society and all that). I see no reason why he couldn't have one if one of his GM (or his dad or yours) want to throw him one. The biggest thing is since it's a gift giving occasion, he won't throw it for himself.

I think a “stock the bar” event would be well-suited for a guy’s event, if he wants his own “shower” instead of a joint one. They could keep it real casual (like backyard BBQ & beers), and for a present each guest would bring a bottle of something to help the couple stock their home bar

"I Do BBQ" would be a good option for just the men. And pairing it with the stock the bar idea from above would be a great arrangement! Like a diaper keg for the men instead of a baby shower.

If he’s interested in participating, I would do a joint wedding shower. I’ve never heard of a grooms shower.

We did a joint shower because we really didn't understand why only the bride gets highlighted.

Also, we dislike gendered things and I should never be allowed to cook. DH loves to cook.

Interesting 🤔 that would be an interesting idea honestly. Right now my mom's pushing for a bridal shower, but his mom was talking about a couple shower. I'm okay with either, but I'm going to ask him what he thinks about having a groom shower separate from his bachelor party plans. I think if he wants one he should have one. I could see it now, having a bbq with some of the greatest men in his life just to celebrate the upcoming nuptials and talk about whatever they think is important in marriage.

😊 I'm a big believer in not every tradition needing to be kept, otherwise how would new traditions begin.

In my area, Stags are popular amongst future grooms!

This is not a gift giving event, but more so a cash giving event, guests (all men) buy tickets (which typically includes food and drinks), there are games with prizes as well as raffles. Stags are not limited to wedding guests and bridal parties, literally anyone can buy a ticket and attend, my FH just attended a stag for a family friends nephew, we're not invited to the wedding and FH doesn't know the groom in question all that well but he still bought a ticket and went for a good time.

Holding a Stag would definitely be a "know your crowd thing" as many people on WW see them as rude and inappropriate, cause they are not the norm everywhere, but they are very much a thing.

I actually took a look on pinterest and found a few post about Honey-Do showers and Handy man Showers which seems pretty cool. I was talking with FH about it and he likes the idea of being able to do something with his dad, uncles, close family friends, etc. that's separate from the bachelor party he's going to have with his groomsmen.


Still on debate since his mom is leaning more towards a couple shower or "Romeo and Juliet party " as she put it.

View Quoted Comment Yes my FH is a wonderful cook and had so many kitchen items he wanted! We did a joint shower too, but if he had wanted his own, I would've supported him.