Micro Mini Wedding

In some social circles, it is considered a faux pas to invite people to pre wedding parties and then not invite them to the wedding ceremony and reception. That is why is it recommended to have the guest list finalized at the beginning of planning before you look for a venue and invite guests to pre wedding parties. Be prepared for many people to be hurt and friendships and relationships to take a permanent hit as a result. At this point, what’s done is done and you can’t undo what has happened. Move forward and hope for the best.

View Quoted Comment They’re not hurt. No one I invited to that even believes in what you just said. I’ve never even heard of that. They don’t care. And u didn’t answer any question about the reception…but thanks for attack 😂😂

View Quoted Comment Actually, what Michelle said is correct. It is considered incredibly rude and against wedding etiquette to invite guests to pre-wedding events (engagement parties, bachelorette parties, showers, etc.), then not invite them to the actual wedding.


As for how to make a memorable reception with a very tiny guest list….I would host it at a fabulous restaurant. With such a small group, you can splurge on a really nice place, with amazing food and open bar for your guests. Depending on where you are having this destination wedding, you may be able to find restaurants that cater to local cuisine, and some places (especially tropical islands) tend to provide cool, local entertainment. For example, in Hawaii many places feature hula and/or fire dancers. I would check the area for something like that. It would be a cool experience for your guests, and it’s some thing you don’t even have to arrange.

I agree with Cece about hosting it at a restaurant! I think focusing heavily on the food is the best course of action when it comes to a smaller group. Enjoying a nice meal together with some sort of table side entertainment would be great.

View Quoted Comment Thankyou Emily ❤️

Hello! I’m also having a destination wedding! Have you considered hiring someone to come do a show for you? Like fire dancers, water drums etc? Not sure where you’re having your wedding but in Cancun they have certain Mayan ceremonies that make things very memorable!

View Quoted Comment I’m having my wedding in st Thomas and that was something that was brought up! Thats a great idea I should look into that again. Thank you so much 😊

I had an out-of-town wedding and invited guests to come the day before (we had 20 people, 5 were in the wedding party) and we all had dinner, then the day of during the reception, we focused heavily on food. We still had music playing and a space to dance, but no one really did dance. We all mostly chatted, ate and drank, and honestly? It was still so much fun.

View Quoted Comment That sounds like so much fun 🤩 I was talking to my fiancé yesterday and he said “baby why are you so worried, these are the same 8 people that we go out with all the time and always have fun.” So I know we’re going to have a blast, but it’s our wedding and I’m sure you know that we want it to be perfect 😂but thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

You invited 100 supporters of your relationship and only 8 can make it? I would host a really great weekend and cover all the costs for your destination wedding.

View Quoted Comment No over 100 people (family and friends) came to our engagement party. We knew only a handful of those people were going to be able to afford our destination wedding (they all knew it was a destination wedding and over half we already knew wouldn’t be able to make it, whether word of mouth or we know their financial status). We didn’t want them to feel bad so that’s why we threw such a big engagement party. 2 people in this post thought we deliberately didn’t want to invite those people but that wasn’t the case at all, which is why people shouldn’t make assumptions. For our wedding we invited about 15-20 but even everyone couldn’t make it because of work, kids, etc. and we’re PERFECTLY fine with that. But because it’s 8, we was just looking for other ways that might spice up the night…but yes we paid for everything at our wedding including things for ours guests. Thank you for the advice 😊

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I like Natalia's suggestion of having a dancer or a singer. Another idea would be to rent a catamaran or boat, or hire a tour guide and shuttle the day before or after. But, I do think wedding dancers and a relaxed excursion will be the cheapest options. You could also personalize your welcome gift bags with a kind note which always warms peoples hearts. In-room snacks are good, too.

As for the guest list, I hope your friends themselves told you it was too costly for them to travel, so needn't bother sending an invite in the future. Otherwise assumptions on others' money and gossip would be hurtful and you may be unaware of bad feelings. If I found out someone didn't invite my husband and me because they assumed we were too working class poor to afford XYZ, I'd end that friendship immediately. Anyway, you asked for marriage advice in another thread, and so I add that assumptions are typically negative... Best wishes with your upcoming wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes those ideas were great. No assumptions we had talks with everyone and we know family..thanks 😊