mil advice/vent

Since getting engaged tension between MIL and I has escalated. We are very different with complete opposite ideas of how the wedding should be but she is continuing to try to take control and in my opinion make it hers. MIL has gone as far as viewing venues by herself without consulting me and attempting to plan an engagement party without my input because I declined her offers due to COVID and wanting to have it when I feel ready. MIL also expected to be invited to dress shopping and was disappointed/guilt tripped FH when she was not invited. We have always had a history of her overstepping and these actions are making me want to include her even less(at this point not at all). I have a dress fitting coming up and agreed months ago she could come but am now feeling differently due to her actions since. FH feels I should include her in these things and that she is just trying to “help”. I do want her to feel included and for us to have a good relationship in the future but things seem to be going the opposite direction. Advice?