So this is primarily a venting post although I am definitely open to all advice. So I am not wearing a white dress to my wedding. I have been thinking a navy dress for awhile now, but I wasn't sure, needed to find the dress. Anyway, my future MIL keeps asking what the wedding colors are so she can start dress shopping (she asks like every two weeks). When I told her we were leaning towards navy and berry with my fiance and I both wearing navy, she said let her know when I decide for sure so that she could also get a navy dress. So that she looks like part of the family. This was really surprising and upsetting to me. It took me awhile to figure out why. I'm not telling people they can't wear navy, I don't really care if others wear navy, so it took me awhile to figure it out. But I finally realized, I'm bothered because why does she WANT to match the bride. What kind of person makes it their goal to match the bride? Me and my fiance will wear the same color and she wants to also so she can match us! It's her intention that irritates me. It feels so weird and disrespectful. She definitely has boundary issues, so maybe I should not have been surprised. But I am just struggling with this. She is super sensitive, whenever I disagree with her about anything, it doesn't matter how I say it, she is all hurt and accuses me of being disrespectful and trying to exclude her from the family. So I don't feel like I can tell her not to wear the navy. I feel irritated and stuck! Rant over.