Mil's ring

Sorry for your loss. I don't think I would do as a second engagement rather a rugby hand thing which will be cute.

Right hand not rugby.

I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with Kristen about not wearing it as an engagement ring because it isn't. To me, an engagement ring is the ring your future spouse gives you as a gift when asking you to marry them. That is what makes it an engagement ring. If it wasn't involved with the engagement, I wouldn't really call it an engagement ring. There is also no law that says you MUST wear your engagement ring at all times. If you want to swap it out occassionally for this one, I don't think that's an issue.

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Thank you for your condolences!

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That's what I mean is swapping them out. I don't really know what to call a ring you wear on your left hand other than engagement ring but yes what you're saying! I'm also a SAHM and my original ring is set really high. It's starting to get some minor damage from car seats, toddler play, and various other activities that cause it to snag. I want to preserve it of course, and this one too, but this one is a bezel prong set with a very low stone. I've tested it out and i have to work really hard to snag it and the stone itself doesnt snag. So I suppose also for practicality I'd like to wear it to keep my other ring nice. I'd wear my original to family events, special occasions, dates, etc. Really anything where I'm not with the kids or I"m not going to be as intense on my hands!

Um, I've never heard of a second engagement ring. If you want to follow the good luck rhyme (new, blue, borrowed), then wear it for the borrowed aspect

I contemplated buying myself a second ring to wear with my wedding band and switch them out as I felt. So, I don’t think there is anything wrong with you wanting a second ring. Some days you might want a ruby and some a sapphire, some you may not want either one! It’s a beautiful ring with special meaning. I think you should wear it as you want. And honestly I wouldn’t even bring it up to your husband as you’re not spending money to buy a new one and your not rejecting the ring he gave you or wanting to get rid of it completely. Obviously if he says something you can tell him you want to wear his moms ring sometimes too. I wouldnt see it being an issue.

View Quoted Comment It would just be called a ring in that case. No special name for rings based on which hand they're worn. Now that I'm married, I honestly rarely wear my engagement ring unless going out somewhere. Even before being married, I would take off the engagement ring for household chores.

Sorry for your loss I personally would wear it on my right hand. As far as your husband, I think that he would probably be happy that you are deciding to wear it!

Re question 1: not if it’s what you guys want. This is between you and your husband. Don’t get clouded by other peoples’ opinions here bc they don’t matter. Likely no one in your circle would even notice or think anything of a change in rings on your left hand unless you brought it up. Don’t overthink that part. Your desires matter here , as do your husband’s . If this is what you want, go ahead and approach your husband about it.


2. How to do that? Don’t make it a big deal. It never hurts to start a casual conversation even if he may think it odd and prefer you to keep the one he gave you (my husband is soooo chill but once when we were wedding band shopping I mentioned if we didn’t find anything we loved we could always grab something simple for the ceremony and replace them for an anniversary or something and to my surprise , he was tootttallly against that. No big deal, I said okay and we moved on!). The less build up of the conversation, the less pressure and the more likely you are to get an honest opinion out of him. I’d just start talking about MIL’s ring and how much you like it and that you’re thinking of making it an every day ring. He’ll have some reaction and then you can go from there. If he says “yea that’d be nice” move on to the next part. You can even say “would it be weird to wear it like my engagement ring and save the one you gave me for special occasions?” and then he can weigh in.
Sorry for your loss. What a special reminder of her, no matter how you end up choosing to wear it!

View Quoted Comment This is probably the most helpful comment thank you so much. All my girl friends I’ve talked to about it haven’t even bat an eye. People get so mean on here and would never ever talk to their friends like that. You’re absolutely right who cares about anyone’s opinions. My husband is cool with it and it’s what I want so there we go 😊

Usually additional rings with a nice stone are worn in addition to other rings on any dressy occasion, in place of other rings so there is only 1 showy one when in sweats and sports clothes. In other words, it goes by the rules of formality, what looks appropriate together. Which hand or which finger you wear it on is totally up to you. I barely wear rings at all, but have friends who routinely take off their engagement ring and swap in another decorative ring, paired with their wedding ring. During the actual engagement, I would not have traded out my engagement ring. It was a pledge to marry. I would have put the new ring on another finger. But having fulfilled the pledge, I will trade out my engagement ring and wear a pretty family ring next to my wedding band. The only time I have heard anyone remark on another woman's or my ring, other than a compliment, was to ask if it was a sentimental or family ring, or just jewelry I like. Your MIL ring has been passed on to you. Wear it however you like and enjoy it.