Mini ceremony and postpone wedding

Depending on where you live can you even get married right now? Some states are completely shut down. Also, do you have your marriage license and someone to legally prefer the ceremony because without those two things getting married wouldn't actually be an option. Also, it is recommended not having more than 10 people so you should follow that recommendation. I would personally postpone the whole thing until it is safer.

View Quoted Comment I’m in Arkansas, we aren’t totally shut down yet. And no I don’t have the marriage license yet, my FH lives in Texas and the next scheduled visit was Easter, so we had plan to get the license that Thursday.
My pastor said they would preform the ceremony without a marriage license because they know us well and they know we didn’t forget to get a marriage license. But I’m hoping that we can get one still. If not we will be married in God’s eyes

I am in the exact same situation. I came on this to see if anyone else was dealing with the same thing. Now our tiny ceremony cannot even include any of the grooms family. It is hard to get married officially without them, but we already planned to live together right after we got married, and are not able to stay where we were living before. Its tough, my feelings are the same as yours, but I have no advice. Still looking for some 😂

View Quoted Comment I don’t even know if I want the tiny ceremony anymore! I’m honestly depressed that I don’t get to have that emotional moment anymore the way I pictured it. I know it’s wrong to have expectations, but never did I consider a situation where there was no wedding.
And the worst part of it all is that I WANTED to elope! I wanted to save the money my parents gave up to spend. But he wanted a wedding and if I was gonna have a wedding I wanted a beautiful fun wedding, so I spent most of the money! Now here I am having to elope basically and then still have to have a wedding later bc I’ve spent the money already and gotten excited about the whole dang thing.

I’m hysterical

It's hard to say if itll take away from the bigger celebration, especially if that's months away.
Personally for me, I didnt think it'd still feel as special so we cancelled and are doing a super simple wedding with us and our boys. It makes me sad that we cant have everyone there, but at the end of the day it came down to deciding what's most important to us. Being married is all that matters. Not the decorations, the food, the colors.
We might do a celebration later, but maybe we won't. Not saying that the people that get married then do the big wedding later will feel the same. It's a very personal decision, so I suggest really thinking about what's most important to you before you decide either way and regret it.

View Quoted Comment If the money wasn’t already spent, it might be an easier decision. But just being blunt I can’t spend $15,000 on a wedding for 20 people. I’ll start sobbing and throwing up.

Hi Ashley! My heart goes out to you in this crazy time of stress and uncertainty! If you feel like you may be disappointed with a small ceremony on your original date, have you checked with your vendors to see what your options are for rescheduling?

View Quoted Comment They are all willing to work with me, and we picked October 10th. The small ceremony is just to get married without just going to the courthouse and signing papers. But I don’t want it to ruin the emotion on the new day