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Jillian
Savvy October 2020

Mirena iud ruining relationship

Jillian, on May 15, 2019 at 10:58 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 33
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Okay y’all. So this isn’t wedding related but it’s most definitely relationship related, obviously.
So I've been with my fiancé for nearly 4 years now and we share a beautiful 14 month baby boy together. I got on the Mirena IUD after I had my son and I knew from the get go my body didn’t react well to hormonal birth control but for some reason I was hoping it would be different. Well here we are 14 months later and I feel as though I don’t want to be with him anymore. I don’t have any sort of sex drive, can barely get turned on during sex anymore, and just don’t enjoy it. It’s hard for me accept and give affection also. I never used to be like this and I’m only 21 years old so it shouldn’t be normal. I don’t even look at him like I used too,
ugh terrible I know 🙈

Tonight I had a long conversation with him and he told me he wants me to get it removed and I’ve been wanting to as well it’s just also scary because right now is not a good time at all to have another child. Have any of y’all had the Mirena and had these experiences? I’m truly hoping it’s the birth control that is just causing my life to go haywire. 😢
All advice is welcomed!! Thank y’all!!

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Latest activity by Leigh Anne, on May 20, 2019 at 8:35 AM
  • Selena
    Super September 2019
    Selena ·
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    Maybe try the non hormonal iud
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  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    I have a 14 month old as well and I’m not on any kind of birth control and it’s still kind of hard for me to be affectionate. I was on the mini pill after I had my son and it made me super bipolar so I got off of it. I would go back to your doctor and talk to them, and maybe try non hormonal, or condoms.
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  • Tina
    Super August 2019
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    I posted on here a few months ago about my mirena nightmare!!! Had it for 12 months. Omg. Bled for 6 out of the 12 months with no exaggeration. I also didn't care about anything. Like zero worries. I had some of the worst things happen during that time sense they didn't faze me. My libido is generally through the roof but with it in l was pretty melow..like l say nothing phased me. I got it out Feb 22nd .. but I'm not keeping track oe anything. Lol. Put in a paragard the same day. I'm back to normal. Libido back through the roof. Normal cycles for what you can expect with copper iuds.

    Just get it out!! I'm sooo glad that thing is gone although l loved being cool as a cucumber
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    Hormonal birth control was awful to me. Like, crying hysterically thinking the world was ending. I've never been scared of myself until I was on those specific 2 different versions of the pill.

    I've been on what feels like 9 billion different variations of the pill. Different estrogen, progestrin, everything. Find one that doesn't make you feel crazy.

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  • Tara
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    I have that and I'm getting off of it shortly. Are condoms an option for you? That's what I plan on using.

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  • Amelia
    Savvy July 2019
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    I had the paragard iud for several years. It’s an iud that has no hormones it’s made of copper and it works by making the uterus a hostile environment. It worked for me mostly except that it made my periods longer and heavier so I switched to kyleena. But if you are trying to find a non hormonal option the paragard might be a good choice for you. The other plus of the paragard is it lasts so long, i think it’s approved for up to 10 years. You should talk to your doctor, I’m sure they can find a better option for you. Maybe all you need is a different hormone mix. There are lots of great effective options out there!
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  • Yasmine
    Dedicated November 2019
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    I say see if you can get the copper IUD! It’s just as effective and is non-hormonal.
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  • Jillian
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    I’ve had it for 12 months and I’m praying once I get it out I have a sex drive and just find him attractive and what not like I used too omg this sounds so bad 😂
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  • Jillian
    Savvy October 2020
    Jillian ·
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    Condoms are most definitely an option. When I first met him that’s what we constantly used and he’s always very good about it. We’ve just been spoiled in the aspect of never having to use anything for a year. Even though I never have a sex drive.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2019
    Miriam ·
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    Im so sorry ur goinf trough this,ive had food experience with mine,i had my mirena after my 9yr old was born for 5yrs,and everything was normal,i got it removed,and went on for 4 more yrs with mirena,no problems,had it removed(we were trying to have a baby)ans 3months later i was pregnant,1month after my 6month old was born,i got mirena inserred again,and have absolutley zero troubles,
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  • Jill
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I had the Mirena and had an adverse reaction to the hormones that caused me to have a grand mal seizure. I had it removed shortly after. Never had a seizure before or after. They ruled out everything else and finally admitted it was a very rare side affect to the Mirena. I have the Paragard now and it works great. But it does make your periods heavier/longer.
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  • Tina
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    I'm sure you will. Just get it out asap. Ugh. I hated that thing!!!

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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
    Heather ·
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    I never had an IUD but I have friends who did and the birth control affected them in similar ways. Maybe try a non-hormonal birth control? I haven't heard great things about IUD's and I completely understand it not being a good time for another baby! Talk to your gyno about another option. Good luck!

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  • Jazmine
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    I am having this problem with my hormonal IUD Loletta. I have scheduled to get it removed because of all the symptoms I have been experiencing. Last week I had to leave from work due to severe migraines and nausea which never happens before the IUD.

    Try using a non-hormonal IUD like Skyla. I had that for three years and had no issues with my body, hormones or sex drive. But with this loletta everything is out of wack.

    Whatever you do, please go see your doctor. They should have better recommendations on this issue.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
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    While I don't have an IUD I am on birth control and 100% yes the hormones in any kind of birth control can affect sex drive. I have been dealing with the same issue on my birth control. Considering changing it this month when I go to the gyno.

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  • Jordan
    Devoted August 2020
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    Same exact thing happened to me. It’s totally common for 1. The IUD with hormones to have this effect and 2. For your body to not be back to normal afterwards too.
    my kiddo is turning 2 in 2 weeks and I just started getting back to feeling like myself. Everyone’s body is different. I would highly suggest getting it removed and trying one with less/no hormones. I got my mirena removed and started the pill with barely any hormones and it took a while, but I finally feel like myself.
    Hope you get better!!
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  • Summer
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    I have had the Mirena twice. I have had a lot of issues with mine including PID, Cysts and it going through the uterine wall. It has made having relations impossible because it hurts so much. I would say if you are having any type of issue, especially to the degree that you don't even want to be with him any more than you should consider having it removed. There may be other options that are not as hard on your body. Talk to your OBGYN to find out for sure.

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  • R
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    Rachael ·
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    I've had issues with hormonal birth control but luckily Mirena didn't cause me any issues at all (I'm assuming since the hormone level is so low). I loved it and will continue to use it as my birth control. Birth control is so personal though. I had terrible reactions to multiple different birth control pills, but none to Mirena. I recommend talking to your doctor and seeing what they recommend based on your history.

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  • bethf
    Devoted August 2019
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    I know exactly how your feel, my FH never believed me but I know it was the damn IUD affected me. I had mirena after my first child, and I will never get it again! It affected my hormones, I was always angry/moody. I hated how it made me feel! I changed it (got pregnantXD - BE CAREFUL lol ) and have been on the pill and have been absolutly fine!

    If you do not feel "rite" with it, get rid of it, there are other ways! Good luck!

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    Expert October 2020
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    I would agree to get off the IUD maybe something more simple like the mini pill which is for hormone sensitive women. I personally feel like completely getting rid of periods is too scary too me and I can see how it can mess with emotions. This could be issues on why you are feeling this way towards your fiance' but it could be stress from wedding, family, friends, expectation pressures, etc. Women go through a lot already wedding planning is something that tends to make a lot more things hard to deal with. I would say switch to the mini pill and talk with your fiance' about things that have been bothering you(It might be external things and you projecting it onto him).

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