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Dedicated September 2021

Mixed Emotions About Wedding

Conny, on September 7, 2021 at 10:02 PM

Posted in Married Life 26

We just got married two days ago and my fiancé now hubby is so special to me. I have no regrets about marrying him. Our actual day was really hard. First, IT RAINED. The worst. Then our day of coordinator just couldn’t get my vision for decor which I had DIY’d . A couple of friends tried to help but...
We just got married two days ago and my fiancé now hubby is so special to me. I have no regrets about marrying him.
Our actual day was really hard. First, IT RAINED. The worst. Then our day of coordinator just couldn’t get my vision for decor which I had DIY’d . A couple of friends tried to help but eventually they just gave up and didn’t really want to be out in the rain. It rained all day. So half the decor couldn’t be done. The floral arch kept falling just a nightmare. I spent months while hubby was deployed DIYIng.
The ceremony space (my fault) had the chairs set up in a chevron vs. straight back style and it just looked disorganized for our wedding size. I was mentally done and couldn’t get past the fact that each day before and days after we’re 80 and sunny and it would likely storm on our day! It was getting worse with each hour. Our inside decor just didn’t work with the space well. It needed more color even though I felt all White would be classic. I’m really hurt and don’t mean to sound ungrateful but I could use some advice on how to best move past the day which wasn’t as smooth as most brides seem to have. Especially the rain and decor part.

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Society puts a TON of pressure on this day to be perfect, and what you see on social media is carefully cultivated highlights from weddings - sometimes they are even staged shoots and not real weddings!

    Some things you can control and some you cannot. But you do have some power in how you react to the things beyond your control. Your wedding was just two days ago so it still feels really fresh and raw. I would say give it some time. Time helps.

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  • Theadra
    Devoted June 2021
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    Sorry , your day wasn't what you expected. Just know that you got to marry the love of your life!

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
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    I'm so sorry to hear that things didn't go well for you or the way you envisioned your special day to be. There were several things with m y wedding that didn't go the way I wanted and I'm still stuck on them sometimes. My advice would be, I know it's hard to move past, but try to remember what the day was all about.... the marriage!!! Remember at the end of it all, you married someone you love and that's so special! No matter what went wrong, that went right and that's amazing!!! Maybe you can do a vow renewal in a few years?! That could give you something to look forward to, without being so stressful.

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    Conny ·
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    You are so right about time. As the days have passed I feel better. I still get occasional ‘wedding day decor and weather envy’ but it’s fading. I’m processing my feelings and working through this in therapy.
    More and more I’m focused on my hubby and the plans we have for our future which are many! Including new jobs , relocation , family planning. It also helps that my official pictures and videos aren’t due for another 8 weeks. I’ll be glad if I get 5 good pics for around the house but everyone says I’ll get more! Thanks for the insight xx
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    Conny ·
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    A vow renewal in a few years sounds like a great idea! Smiley smile
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    Thank you!
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