Mixed emotions

I have no idea what you are going through but, I want to say. That I'm thinking of you. Try to keep your head up. Just know your mom loves you and you are marrying your best friend. I am so sorry this is happening. I hate the "C" word. Breaks my heart

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hugs and thought for you and your mom. I think you and your DH made the best choice. I'm sure your mom is really happy that she was able to witness you two get married. Congrats btw!

I'm so sorry this is happening OP. I think it is such a wonderful gift you're giving your mother to know that while she may miss the large celebration, she was able to see her daughter get married. Having her there in that moment will be such a treasured memory for you and your husband.

Thank you all for your encouraging words and support. It means a lot. <3

@lucille1, I actually have not thought about it. But that may be a good idea. Just someone else to listen. Thanks for the idea.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sending you all of the internet hugs!!

We are going through something similar right now. FH's mother has terminal cancer and is in palliative care. We were planning on getting married May 2018 and were in the process of planning on doing a small ceremony this August - when she got much worse. Now we are just holding off on making any plans for a while and focusing on being there for her as much as possible during this time.

I lost my dad to cancer in 2010 as well. I can't really say how to handle it. Everyone is different. It's not easy. My advice is to take it one day - or one hour if necessary - at a time. Let this remind you how precious and fragile life is, and to cherish the happy moments we get to spend with the people we love.

I'm glad you feel good about your decision and that your mother got to be there for your marriage. I think that will bring you (and her!) a lot of peace.

My sister's SIL went through the same thing they were going to have the wedding on st. patricks day 2016 but moved it to December 2015 when they found out her mom had stage 4 cancer and it didn't look good. She handled it pretty well the family was super supportive and it really made her mom happy that she moved it sooner so she could experience the day with her. Unfortunately her mother passed in November right before. You should be extremely happy she was able to share that moment with you. I'm so sorry you're going through this I hope here on out you can enjoy every moment with her. Sending virtual hugs!

I'm so sorry! A very dear friend of mine went through something similar earlier this year. All I can say is that I am glad to hear you're surrounded by loved ones and your husband to help you get through this time. My heart goes out to you!

Mindy my heart hurts reading this for you! Im so sorry about what you and your family are going through. Continue to surround yourself with family, you guys will be each other's strength. Happy to know that she was able to witness you two getting married. Stay strong!

Mindy, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can't imagine the emotions, feeling guilty whether you are happy or sad I would imagine.

My mom is also terminally ill (stage 4 cancer). Luckily, she has been doing exceptionally well since her diagnosis and should be in good shape for the wedding. I know the emotion of wanting her to see you go through that part of life (so awesome she was able to watch you get married!) but also struggling with the realities of probably not meeting any future grandchildren, being able to ask her for advice, etc.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Do your best to enjoy what you can, that is what your mom wants I am sure!

Ugh im so sorry you are dealing with this! I cant imagine trying to be so happy and excited for the wedding during this time. Virtual hugs sent your way!! I love that you got married while she is still here, that makes my heart happy!

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.

We had a similar situation with FH lost his grandmother this past week and our wedding isn't until August.

My heart aches for you. I am so truly sorry. Sending you love and healing energy.

Goodness, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I can not even begin to imagine what losing a mom is like. I'm sure you have lots and lots of emotions regarding this.

Such a horrible situation to be in, I'm so sorry. I'm glad she got to witness your union, I'm sure that made her happier than she could ever express. And it will hopefully give you a little comfort after she's gone. I can't imagine what you're going through. I will pray for you to find peace during this emotional time.

The love and support you all are sharing is truly amazing, and helpful. Thank you all for your words of sympathy.

To those of you who know what I am going through, I am truly sorry as well. These situations are never easy.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. My mom just died and we decided to go ahead with the wedding anyway because I figured it was 4 months away, plenty of time to emotionally recuperate and plan. But now I'm struggling, emotions up and down on a daily basis. Just know that you are NOT alone, and that whatever you are feeling on any given basis, is fine and normal. You can be happy, you can be sad, you can be all things at once! And it doesn't make you a 'good' or 'bad' person. Do lots of self-care and recharging in your down time, including stuff that is not wedding-related at all. I'll find myself scrolling Pinterest for hours because I'm too exhausted emotionally, but then be just as tired after, it's taxing to plan a big event! Anyway, just be good to yourself and don't be afraid to show your emotions and share your thoughts with your fiance as they come. Lots of love to you.

I am so sorry about your Mom. I bet she is thrilled to have been able to be there when you got married. Hugs to all and prayers for a peaceful heart . XO

All the hugs. What unimaginable emotions

A friend of mine lost her father recently and said that grief counseling really helped her sort through things. I highly reccommend that!

Im sorry you're going through this! I know it must be so difficult & i can't begin to imagine!