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Rebecca
Dedicated September 2020

mob getting ready with Bridal Party

Rebecca, on September 18, 2019 at 11:08 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
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My mom is crazy overbearing and really can get on my nerves. When we went dress shopping she was real mean and opinionated about everything I loved. She basically invited herself to get ready with my bridal party and it threw me off. I never thought she would be getting ready with me. Is this a normal thing, lol? If I tell her she can't she will freak out and be really upset. Also my wedding is real early in the day and there will already be 5 of us getting done up by 1 stylist. I am wondering what is the "norm" should I just bite the bullet and have her there? Or is she being intrusive?

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on September 19, 2019 at 2:50 PM
  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
    Mary ·
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    My mother, as well as now MIL, were with us in the bridal suite for the "getting ready" phase. They were also getting their hair and make-up professionally done so they stayed with us all morning. I think this is quite common, but we explicitly invited them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Every wedding I’ve been in, the MOB has gotten ready with the BP. Our mothers will be getting ready with us as well. But just because it’s what most people do, doesn’t mean it’s what you have to do. If you don’t want her there, just go with the stylist excuse and let her know that they don’t have the resources to take on another person with the time constraints.
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  • Krissyl
    Devoted October 2019
    Krissyl ·
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    I think it's pretty typical, but my mom is getting her hair and makeup done elsewhere so she wint be joining us until maybe 1130 or so? So shell be there halfway through hair and makeup to hang out with us and such. If your mom is going to stress you out or put you in a bad mood I would definitely not have her there all morning. Like PP's said, you can say the HAMU person cant take on more and blame it on that. She can get ready elsewhere and join you later in the morning?
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  • Jessica
    VIP June 2020
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    Its very normal to have your mom get ready with you and the girls. My mom and FMIL will be getting ready with us. I think of it as a special moment for her just like my dad has his special moment of walking me down the aisle.

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    Yeah, I think that's pretty common, but I agree with everyone else that you can definitely use the HMUA excuse if you want space. And if that doesn't work, you can tell your bridal party to keep you surrounded by positivity the whole time - I bet they could help with that.

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  • Izzykern
    Super April 2021
    Izzykern ·
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    You should do what will make you the most comfortable on you wedding day! My 2 FMIL and my mom will be getting ready with us and be with us all morning (: I think it’s a great opportunity for bonding!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think she's being intrusive but at the same time it sounds like it's better for you if she wasn't there
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If your mom is mean & opinionated, then no, I wouldn't invite her to get ready or do any other wedding related things with you. For me, my 9 bridesmaids, my mom, my husband's mom & stepmom, and our flower girl all got ready together. But everyone was nice & supportive and made the morning great for me.

    The whole group!mob getting ready with Bridal Party 1


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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
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    I invited my mother to be in the suite with us. She doesn't really wear make up or anything but i just couldn't see myself getting ready for my big day without her. But if you don't want her there that is your decision - but if she causes a scene is that what you want to deal with on your day? I wouldn't add extra stress if you don't have to. If you think you can make it through a few hours with her then i would say just let her stay but let her know to maybe be more in the background.

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated September 2020
    Rebecca ·
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    I appreciate everybody's feedback. I just never realized this was the norm. Either way I go I am looking at drama. I will have to look for that happy medium. Maybe she can dress with us and come after her hair is done. I certainly am not looking to hurt feelings either. I know it is a big day for her. It is not my first wedding. I remember the first one which was a small wedding no bridesmaids. She had a temper tantrum because my hair was taking too long and she wanted more attention on her. 🙄
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