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Meesh
VIP May 2016

MOB/ MOG dresses? Does it matter to you?

Meesh, on January 12, 2016 at 9:34 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 54

My FMIL made a point to get a dress in my "color scheme", which is great but I had never really thought of her needing to "match". I went dress shopping with my mom last weekend and we found a dress that is sooooo beautiful and flattering on her. However, it is not one of my colors. It is a dark emerald green and won't clash with anything, but after hearing from FMIL about her dress, she is worried that people will notice. She also had never heard of the mothers matching the wedding colors. Was this important to you? Would you side eye a MOB for her dress color?

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Latest activity by Zoe , on January 12, 2016 at 7:44 PM
  • MrsSantamaria2015
    Master December 2015
    MrsSantamaria2015 ·
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    As long as it wasnt white or black I didnt care, did I get that? No.

    His mom wore a DB dress that was white and black (yeahhh) my mom wore a teal dress.

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  • Meesh
    VIP May 2016
    Meesh ·
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    Here's the dress! It's a little more green than this picture shows. My colors are a dusty blue, plum with tans/champagne, and a few blush pink flowers in my bouquet.


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  • VMDIZZLE
    Master September 2015
    VMDIZZLE ·
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    I didn't care what my mom wore. She actually ended up wearing a cream lace dress and it didn't take away from the wedding. I just wanted her to be comfortable. DW's mom just wore a black printed dress. They both looked fine.

    ETA: pictures



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  • Janeen
    Master January 2015
    Janeen ·
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    It didn't matter to me because I wanted them to look and feel attractive. I didn't care about my pictures being "matchy matchy" though because I prefer to remember people as they are.

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  • Melissa53
    Super April 2017
    Melissa53 ·
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    If your mother looks great in it and she's not wearing white, it's fair game! I've never seen the MOB match the color scheme. My cousin got married a couple months ago, her colors were cream, blush pink, and silver and her mother wore dark blue. It was perfectly fine. Tell your mom to get the emerald dress Smiley smile

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  • Miranda
    Dedicated June 2016
    Miranda ·
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    I think that as long as you and your mom agree on the dress, it should be fine. I had a friends mom wear a long purple dress that didn't match the color scheme (which was blue and silver), but the dress looked great on her.

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  • Caroline
    Master June 2016
    Caroline ·
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    Doesn't matter to me at all! I just want them to pick out something they like and feel good in.

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  • Rachel
    VIP May 2016
    Rachel ·
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    I literally couldn't care less.

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  • ALH
    VIP October 2016
    ALH ·
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    I'm not going to lie- it has never even occurred to me that the MOB or MOG should match the color scheme. I don't look at the mother's at all during the weddings I attend... so if she would like to wear it then I think it would be fine. I'm not going shopping with my mom or FMIL for their outfits.

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  • Ashley589
    Super August 2016
    Ashley589 ·
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    At first I thought "of course this wouldn't matter. Who cares???" However based on photos from other weddings, I realized it's important. For example, it looks kind of strange in photos if you and your bridesmaids are wearing long dresses and your mothers legs are showing. It really does stand out in photos

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  • VMDIZZLE
    Master September 2015
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    Michelle- I love the dress! Let them wear whatever makes them comfortable.

    Ashley- why would your mother be taking pictures with the bridesmaids?!

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  • Missys984
    Master October 2015
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    It didn't matter to me as long as they weren't wearing white or the exact same color as the bridesmaids. My mom ended up getting a taupe dress and MIL got eggplant. Our BMs wore black and had reds and orange (fall) accents. The colors meshed well with everything else.

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  • LoMarissa7216
    Super July 2016
    LoMarissa7216 ·
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    I really couldn't care FMIL keeps trying to make a big deal out of the fact that my mom hasn't gotten her dress yet. My mom is plus size so she is very picky and plus we have like SIX months!

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  • P
    Super October 2015
    puppybagel ·
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    Yeah, I don't think it matters. My MIL wanted to wear the same color as the bridesmaids, which I thought was a little strange, but meh, didn't impact my life.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted September 2016
    Ashley ·
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    I think your moms dress is beautiful and definitely won't clash! I'm sure there's green in your bouquet and she'll look just fine.

    Both my mom, grandmas and fmil have asked me about what color to wear. I just gave them a handful of colors that would work. We have similar neutral colors to yours and I just didn't want someone wearing a bright orange dress or something super distracting

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
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    Eh- I'm wearing a black dress- so I feel like my only concern is that people not wear all black- we're literally going to look like we are going to a funeral- so I'm probably going to steer people clear of blacks- but I mean- whatever. That's on them. I don't care. Just be happy- look great- and drink wine- and celebrate with us.

    That's my only concern/wish for people. /

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  • Samantha
    VIP August 2015
    Samantha ·
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    I didn't have a preference. I just wanted to be able to see them before they bought them.

    my mom far left my mother in law far right. I absolutely loved there dresses in the end.


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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
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    I don't really care. They are going to be in a few pictures and that's about it. I don't think they would be in any with the BM's.

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  • Sassy Cincy Bride
    VIP August 2015
    Sassy Cincy Bride ·
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    As long as your mom looks fabulous and the dress isn't white in my mind it's fair game. I have heard of a rule that says that Mothers should not match the brides maids and another saying the MOG should wear beige. I call this one personal preference for you and the moms.

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
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    It doesn't matter to me i just want them to be comfortable and look beautiful. I always envisioned my Mom in a long gown but she is adamant about wearing a shorter dress.. i just thought long looked more formal and i want to make sure she stands out because she's a VIP. We shall see how it works out! LOL I guess doesn't help i picked a summer date when i always thought about it being in November--- damn discounts for off season.

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