Modern or Traditional: Paying for the Wedding

And just a general thought on this...what I think is really different now than how things used to be, is there are more options now on how to help your children financially. For an average middle class family, some people want to foot the bill for their child's wedding, some pay for college, some have adult children living with them, etc. I just find it interesting to realize everyone's priorities are different, even if they have the same financial abilities.

Combination. My parents (divorced) gave us the same amount and his father offered to pay for the flowers (since I forgot to budget for them!). We have each contributed to our wedding fund so that we can have a great day celebrating with family and friends!

Traditional- my parents gave me a dollar amount cap but we won’t exceed it. I’m very grateful! FH and I probably would’ve eloped if my parents didn’t volunteer.

Modern, it's being split between us and both of our families which I'm very very appreciative of!

Both sets of parents will be splitting the cost!

Modern! My parents are paying for my dress and my bridesmaids' dresses. His parents are paying for the bar and the rehearsal dinner. Then we are all working together to figure out the rest of the budget!

Modern-ish, my mom and step-dad gave us a budget which is a majority of what we plan to spend but anything above that FH and I will pay for together. FH is set on paying them back eventually but that's just gonna be a lifetime battle because I know my parents won't accept. I also am very lucky because there are no strings attached to the money, my mom is backing me 100% on what I want.

Mostly modern

Modern. We’re paying for it all ourselves. Its how I always planned ‘cause my parents never had a lot of money so I didn’t want to burden them with this. FH family doesn’t make a lot either. They also have to travel to be here and his dad had a bunch of medical bills to pay. Even though I’m an only child I’ve always been very independent and wouldn’t except my parents to pay for one very expensive day that’s all about FH and me.

Well weddings are expensive now & we don’t have the same taste as pur parents lol they are contributing a little but we’re basically paying for the whole thing. We didn’t expect any other way.

Paying for wedding, modern

MODERN. We are in our mid-30s and we are in a really good position financially so I couldn't dream of asking my parents (traditional) to pay for anything. HOWEVER, my parents are very generous so I'm sure they will give a nice monetary gift.

Fiancé and I are on our own, our families just don’t have the extra money for it and we most certainly didn’t expect them to pay for it. Great if families can but ours can’t and we took that into consideration when wedding planning but we also felt proud for doing it without help- of course it would be nice but I don’t think it matters as much as even though ppl say it’s a tradition. Many different ways people take care of the cost and no way is right or wrong

Modern. Paying for it all ourselves. Probably why I want to disinvite all these people I didn't want to invite to begin with, but did out of obligation: family and parents' friends they had to invite. But now they can't bother to RSVP on time and the parents don't even have these "must invites" phone numbers either".

Modern fiancé and I are paying for photographer, DJ,officent and part of dress. Dad is paying for venue that includes Foid drink reciption and ceromony. Still looking at rehearsal dinner. But we got a year

Modern. We are paying for 90% of the wedding. My mom chipped in a little for the catering, my aunt paid for our flowers and my FW matron of honor paid for our cake. Lastly my sister is paying for the alcohol. My sister and her matron insisted to help with those two things as we contributed to both of their weddings. It’s been so helpful and made us feel loved!

Very fortunate that my parents are paying for the majority of the day and I’m paying for my hair/makeup. They have waited a very long time for this and they chose to cover the expenses.

A little bit of both. FH and I are are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. My family isn’t really helping (for personal reasons,) but FH’s family is adamant on paying for the rehearsal dinner. We made it easy on them too because we were able to use the meeting room in the hotel we chose for free 🙌🏽...just to rent any hotel meeting rooms for a party here in IL was around $300

Modern. My parents are paying attention deposits & we're paying the rest.

We are paying for everything ourselves. My parents probably aren’t even going to the wedding, that’s a different issue. And his parents tried to offer money but we refused. Once other people start chipping in, their opinions and requests weigh more.

This wedding is 100% ours and by footing the bill we get to do exactly what we want. Plus, when we talked about it, we agreed it would be pretty weird if our parents chipped in or paid for it. We’re both in our 30s and fully established. We’re the ones who want to get married and have a reception, so that’s on us.