Modern or Traditional: RSVPs?

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I asked her if she would be willing. She designed her invites and some of her friends invites and I knew she was trying to do more invites as a little side job. She was happy to do it and we negotiated: we paid for paper, shipping and supplies and she gifted us with her design services. She did an amazing job!

We’re going to do a mix just to cut costs. For families and old people we will have RSVP cards to mail back to us but for our friends who are all about 22-24 we are just going to have our wedding website for them to RSVP because they are more likely going to do that anyways rather than mailing back an RSVP card

We stuck with the traditional approach for our invitations and RSVPs. However we threw in a modern twist by adding a song request to the RSVP.

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Ooh, I like the addition of the song request, Brandi!! Have you gotten any interesting ones back yet?

View Quoted Comment I just ordered them and won’t be sending them out until January.

I am not savvy on the online rsvp's (I've only had to do one as an adult) so if you have complicated children scenarios or guests not bringing plus ones I am not sure how that would work with the online method! I seem to have it down pact with pre-filled in numbers for those certain guests on traditional mail rsvps.

I loved getting all the rsvps in the mail! I would never have given that one up! Traditional all the way there.

We'll probably have to do a more traditional approach for this because so many of our guests don't get the computer world and I'd rather not split the RSVPs online and paper.

I haven't quite decided yet. I am considering a paper RSVP for those more traditional and maybe an option to RSVP on the website for those modern people. I am traditional and I like the idea of the paper RSVP but I also know life is crazy and sometimes it might be easier for them to just click a button online then send out mail.

Eh. Moditional 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ We’re doing both..whichever ppl prefer or is easier for them!

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Well knowing me I'll lose more than one or two, so I just want to make sure I know whos coming!

Modern, for 99.9% of everybody. I will indeed be sending out physical invitations that basically include the date, the name of myself and my SO, the city the wedding/reception will be in, and then "for more details and RSVP, visit [www.ourwebsite.com].

I will be buying a custom domain so that people don't have to type in a bunch of backslashes or whatever to get to it. But that's not hard. And then I'll probably password-lock it and include the password on the invite. I figure that this way I'll be able to explain more about what the venue/feeling will be like, anyway. It's highly likely that I will be doing a brunch wedding, so there are some nontraditional aspects about it. People can click links to book hotels and pull up Google Maps and etc etc.

I don't see the sense in spending more money on physical RSVPs and stamps when literally everybody that I will be inviting (even the older folk) use the internet on a regular basis with the exception of my grandmother.

I think I'll probably end up hand-making an invitation for my grandmother with a physical RSVP card, since I think giving her one of the "go to the website" cards and then including an RSVP will be confusing. But, I mean, I can hand-make one single invitation, ha ha ha. And everybody else will understand why Grandma got something a bit more old-fashioned.

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We combined the two. We sent cards to everyone with invitations. But any who called us up, or sent an email, that they definitely were or were not coming, and tentative meal choices , we said back thank you for letting us know, we will fill in your rsvp on our chart and you need not send the card back. Almost a third did this, including all really distant people in Europe, Greenland, and far northern Canada, who used email. The rest sent RSVP's promptly. We sent out at 8 weeks, all but two responded by 5 weeks out, and those local couples who told us in person ( came to dinner at our house) at a month out. So all answers in 2 weeks before we had to tell venue. We had no wedding website at all. I know some people who responded to anyone who called them or said coming and meal choice, or not coming, by phone or email, by saying please put on website or RSVP card, and never recorded info, then a week after RSVP date were chasing those same people. Brides were miffed guests bothered them with details, did not cooperate with their chosen method. I was annoyed twice when out of the country. I received the invitation over the phone from someone opening our mail, and I answered by email, both times FI or I in the wedding party, and got what I considered a snotty reaction. I think B & G need to accept any reasonable attempt to give complete information, realizing that these people had the consideration to respond promptly, regardless of the format. Which is more care and thoughtfulness than lots of people show.

View Quoted Comment I like the song requests. A little more info to keep track of for the couple, but lots of people have a special song they want to dance to with a special person.

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Oh my gosh that's an awesome idea. Wish I had thought of that!

We are planning to do a mix of both! We are using Minted for our invites. We're ordering 160 invites and ordering about 50 RSVP cards for older/non-computer savvy guests but the rest of our friends/family will be instructed to RSVP online. We are having multiple events throughout the weekend and set it up so guests can RSVP to each event. We also want to make sure guests see our wedding website - it has a lot of important information since most are traveling from out of the area.

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What an awesome idea, Maria!!! How are you getting the important information on your wedding website to the people you'll be sending RSVP cards to? Will you be including an information card?

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Nice, Nicole!! Have you gotten your invitations yet?

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You do what works best for you, Angelena!!! Have you ordered or looked at invitations yet?