moh Advice

Hi everyone! I’m a first time bride and I have 2 MOHs who are my best friends of 13 years. My wedding is in 7 months but I’m starting to get concerned about one of my MOHs. The 3 of us plus my HTB and my other MOH’s partner all went for a getaway weekend and she got quite upset as she felt like the 3rd (or 5th) wheel and didn’t have anyone to go with as a couple. I completely understand why she was upset, and I did my best to comfort her and make her feel happy. But she also left early on my engagement party without warning (not to mention both MOH’s never responded to my change of date due to covid last year) so they nearly forgot to come. Also for this entire 4 day getaway, the wedding was not mentioned once, and I felt I couldn’t really talk about it given the situation. When I brought up the hen’s night, she merely acknowledged it and moved on.


I guess I am just concerned that my wedding is going to have a negative affect on her as I don’t want things to get worse as the planning gets more full on later in the year. Should I talk to her about this? I don’t want to seem confrontational, but I want to put things to rest while I still can. Has anyone been in a similar situation?