My best friend (bride) is getting married in the summer. There are 3 bridesmaids including me and her sister is the MOH.
The MOH has made it clear that she is not splitting costs as she said she cannot attend the party (she's a student overseas), has been unemployed since summer 2022 and is spending $1000 to come home for the wedding. She has stated that the party costs need to be split by those attending. The cost is around $150-200 each. We are paying the bride's way. She has been helping to plan the party when she is available (time difference).
I told her every bridal party splits the costs and the other bridesmaids agreed with me. The MOH is now saying she will consider stepping down from her role since she can't meet the financial obligations. Nothing has been said yet to the bride. I don't wan't to upset the bride but I don't think it's fair the costs should fall on just the 3 of us bridesmaids. But I think I might be the bad guy if this turns into a big drama thing.
What should i do?
Should I put my foot down about this? Am I the one in the wrong?
