Hi, I am a 28 year old woman getting married this August. I have 3 half sisters, one is 30 (same mom different dad), another with the same mom and different dad who is 16. And a third who is four months younger than me and has different mom same dad.
Now even though I lived with the other 2. this sister who lived with her own mother and I are still very close! we spend a lot of time together growing up. And take girls trips as adults. And she is the more responsible sister. So months ago I was debating who to make MOH. Side note she made me MOH in her wedding that unfortunately never happened. But I was still chosen. Although she doesn’t have other sisters to choose from. That said I would have chosen her if I didn’t want to hurt my other sisters feelings. So ultimately I choose my aunt to be matron of honor because she knew I was having a hard time and she offered herself up and I accepted… But my sister who I would have choose has been so helpful and I really want to let her know her effort and care hadn’t gone unnoticed. Can you all help me come up with idk maybe a private way to let her know I would have chosen her. Or should I make her MOH last minute along with the matron of honor. She really deserves it and I wish I picked her from the beginning. They are all so special to me and my older sister has 5 kids so that plays a role in her inactive role in my wedding. I do think it might still hurt my older sisters feelings a little. But this other sister deserves some kind of recognition.