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Just Said Yes May 2022

moh drama

Gina, on September 17, 2021 at 2:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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Hello all!!

Need some advice. My MOH has been kind of a handful from the jump. She’s had a bunch of issues from my wedding location, demanding a plus one (which I obviously obliged but now she’s questioning his attendance), problem with the shoes (which I basically said everyone pick their own nude shoe), and don’t even get me started on the vaccine drama. Anyways, I was planning to try to do as much DIY as possible, which is totally her jam. She made my save the dates and they came out beautiful and saved me a TON of money. The problem I’m having, is if there is anything she dislikes happening for the wedding she likes to list all the things she’s doing for me for the wedding. Then I feel guilty and end up caving to her desires. So, the time as come to begin looking at ordering my invites. The original plan was to have her make them as well, but I’m feeling uncomfortable asking help for anything if it’s going to be thrown in my face. What do you think? Should I suck it up, and save money in the process?

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Latest activity by Katelyn, on October 15, 2021 at 9:30 PM

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Yasmine · on September 17, 2021 at 2:55 PM
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Not if she is throwing it in your face. If so, then that means it isn't genuine. I honestly would just purchase the wedding invitations then you won't have to worry about feeling guilty or anything.
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Mcskipper · on September 17, 2021 at 3:03 PM
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I think you’re looking at this correctly. Help isn’t helpful if it is used against you. Best to put a little distance between her and your planning.
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Melissa · on September 17, 2021 at 3:04 PM
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I would 100% order mine and not use her services. She is using her kindness against you to have the wedding of her dreams, not yours or your FHs
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Lisa Online · on September 17, 2021 at 3:07 PM
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I would order invites from somewhere else. It'd be awesome of her to make them, but she doesn't get to make decisions for your wedding. It seems like she wants to use whatever help she gives you as a way to control details about your wedding, so I would avoid the drama and just spend the money elsewhere.
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Maggie · on September 17, 2021 at 4:41 PM
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I think you know everything you need to know about what will happen if you ask for more favors from her. None of that sounds like worth any potential money savings.
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Jacks · on September 18, 2021 at 5:13 AM
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What Maggie said. Just do everything without relying on this person.
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Hannah · on September 19, 2021 at 11:23 AM
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Yeah, this is why I always recommend that brides rely on professional services for their wedding versus friends/family. You don’t want to be so reliant on her for key parts of your wedding (eg invitations) if she’s the type of person to throw it in your face to get her way. Nope. She’s cut off in my opinion and you shouldn’t rely on her much more, which is sad because she’s your MOH. Did you not know she was like this before your chose her?
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Samantha · on September 21, 2021 at 10:49 AM
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I would tell her when she throws things in your face that she didn't have to do anything for you and its your wedding. Hopefully that would shut her up.
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Katelyn · on October 15, 2021 at 9:30 PM
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I wouldn’t have her do anything else. Did she offer to help or did you ask? Also, she is MOH and should help with things, that’s part of her duty as a maid of honor… it’s YOUR wedding and you can do anything that YOU want. Take it form someone that kept changing things to make others happy and not myself..it’s NOT worth it. Saving money is nice, but not when you have to do things you don’t want to.
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