Hey Guys,
Weird one, but I got asked to be MOH of like 2/3 years ago in the height of the pandemic. However, I only got asked because her original choice said no. I wasn't invited to the engagement party and I haven't been involved in any of the decisions, including a dress that would be comfortable. The wedding has been pushed back at least 5 times already and they finally decided a date for 8 months from now (Feb.). I've since found out I need major surgery and pretty well won't be able to walk for a good 8 to 12 weeks at minimum. She's made me feel guilty for needing to pull out for my own health, but she's also tried to guilt trip me saying she has no one else. Is this something I should feel bad about? I agreed to this a long time ago now and my priorities have changed. Am I being rude? It gives her 8 months to find a new MOH, but again, I'd only agreed to participate then, not now.
Added note, she cancels all plans she makes with me, never goes to any events I invite her to and always has her hand out for money/gifts because, "you're single and don't have kids". I still have my own bills.. and now major surgical bills as well..
Any advice would be great because right now it's making anxious..
