Hello all,
I’m in a bit of a tough spot. My BFF is getting married next summer. She’s asked me to be her MOH. We had a discussion about it. I told her that I wasn’t in a good place because my husband and I would soon be starting IVF and I wasn’t sure what that timeline was. I told her that she deserves to have an MOH who is there 100% for her and I can’t guarantee anything. She still insisted I be her MOH. We talked more about her bachelorette party. Background:My husband and I were originally told we couldn’t start IVF until March. This is because I had cancer and we have had to wait a year to get pregnant, which would land in March.
So I told my BFF that I could go to the bachelorette if we did it in February (before starting IVF). The problem now is that my oncologist gave us the go ahead to start IVF earlier than we originally were told. This would mean that I could miss the bachelorette weekend. It’s a 4 day getaway and everyone has to fly there. Flights have already been booked. My husband and I have been trying for a kid for 4 years, we’ve lost pregnancies and cancer was randomly thrown into that journey so we are ecstatic to start early. So I guess my question is… am I being a terrible MOH for not going to her bachelorette weekend to start IVF early? I am still planning it and will send decor/ party favors with the bridesmaids who are going.
I just feel terrible but also need to put my family first.