moh not attending bridal shower

Not at all! You are a great friend for even being concerned about it. Any reasonable bride will understand that it just isn’t possible for you to take all that time off and spend all that money. Just explain yourself and express how you wish you could be there for all the festivities, but you will be there in spirit!

Not at all!!! Do not put yourself in a financial situation you are not comfortable with in order to attend an optional party.

Heck no! Your friend asked you to be her MOH knowing that you lived in a different state and surely didn’t expect you to fly in 3 different times for wedding related events. If she does, she’s the one being a bad friend.

Nope! I’ve been a maid of honor several times in a different state and have never flown in for the shower. I’ve always prioritized the wedding and the bachelorette if I can swing it.

Not at all. That’s actually a little excessive since you’re out of state.

Definitely not. I’m sure your friend wouldn’t want you to spend all that money for a few hours at a shower. Maybe plan to FaceTime with her for a few minutes on that special day and just explain the situation to her but don’t feel bad.

I agree with PP's, you're definitely not a bad friend. Hopefully your friend took that into account when asking you to be her MOH. If she has unrealistic expectations of you, that's on her.

You're not. My moh lived in a different state and she didn't go to my bachelorette. I don't consider that a bad friend at all because it's a lot of money and time.

Absolutely not. Those expectations are unreasonable. Don't even worry about it!

No not at all! One of my bridesmaids is in the exact same position. I'm just excited she'll be able to make it for the wedding!