Hi All! I am looking for some advice as a MOH planning the bridal shower.
The bride's Mother is not helping with the shower at all, which is 100% ok, but she had strong expectations that there be one. There are 3 other BMs and I have taken the lead, as I should, with choosing bridal shower venue options and a theme. I made sure to include the girls and get a consensus on the venue cost for the event. We have the location locked in.
There will be 70 (I know!) women attending.
I have purchased all the decorations and games, prizes etc. and put down the deposit for the venue. I take photos of all the items that come in weekly and gush about how nice the shower will be and none of the girls have asked how they can help or contribute. It's crickets.
We're all in our 30s, no kids, stable careers. I just feel really alone in this. They are all really fun great people, but I thought they would pitch in financially. I am going it alone for now to make sure my BFF has an amazing shower and the one she deserves.
She's been such a great friend to us all and I guess I'm just disappointed the other BMs aren't taking as active of a role in things, and didn't expect for this to be a 1 woman show. I wanted us all to have fun planning it.
I am not overspending with the hopes they will give me any money towards it. I'm basically just doing what I think will be best and hoping they eventually will ask what they owe?
Is that the wrong expectation? I am not confrontational at all, so I don't want to bring it up if I shouldn't, or come off as grabby. What is the right role of the MOH vs BM when it comes to showers?